Managing Frustration

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My roommate and I both do geocaching, and I have this one mystery cache that I had already solved the coordinates for. I sat on it for like two months because I was waiting for my roommate to have the free time to go look for it with me, and I told her repeatedly. As it turned out, when I left for the holidays, she completely forgot that I already had the solution to that cache and found it without me. I found out last night. I was annoyed, but I tried not to take it out on her, and she was really apologetic. However, I was trying to just go find the cache for myself today, and I just got really frustrated about the whole thing and decided that I just don't feel like finding it at all. I can get like that about things a lot of times. If I have a plan for how I want to do something and it gets screwed up, a lot of times, I just want to throw the entire thing away. Like my dad used to mess around with my dinner a lot of times, and no matter how much I liked the food overall, if he started trying to mess around with it, I just plain wouldn't eat it. It was sort of like the food was already ruined. I know it sounds really petty. In any case, I'm kind of thinking that as long as I don't actively take it out on her, maybe it's OK to just ignore the cache at least until I'm not still frustrated about the whole thing. I'm not trying to get back at anyone, but I just feel like trying to go after it now is just going to make me really needlessly upset. But I still kind of feel like crap that I'm still frustrated over something that is, for lack of a better word, petty. I don't know. Does what I'm saying make sense to anyone?

Yeah, feeling that frustration at the moment.
Trying to finish something but everything seems stacked against that happening.
Keep coming back to it, do a little more, then the results frustrate me further.
I'm at the stage where I want to scrap the whole damn thing.
It sits there mocking me.
Saying, "You've lost it."

Are you trying to finish it by a particular deadline?

It is annoying to have plans to do something special with someone and to have them forget about it. I once made plans with my friend to see a movie I had been waiting for and wanted to share with him. I told him this, but he went with other friends and told me afterwards. Still bugs me, although we are still friends.

I don't have a particular deadline.
I just want to finish it and get it out of my face.
But everything I use seems to be defective.
Then I'm derailed until I can find the suitable materials.
Which have now evolved into completely different materials.
Then I shut down because nothing matches.
And so I leave it for another few months.

It's a study in procrastination.
Left so long my brain has probably severed all connection with it.
My neurons have moved on.
And I can't get back onto that pathway.

The frustration level has become critical.

I remember doing geocaching with my sons when they were younger. It was quite fun.

I can relate to the frustration of wanting to do something with someone, then them going off and doing it without you. Perhaps it is suggestive of some type of abandonment, or of them not caring enough about your feelings to do this thing with you that you so looked forward to. If I were in your shoes, I would probably feel let down and disappointed.

I think we on the spectrum get repeatedly and frequently dismissed. I know I have, and do. At times, I get very sick and tired of the continuous feeling of being treated as a person with less significance than the NT's around me.