I feel REALLY bad right now...

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I was invited to go to a birthday party tonight, at a nightclub. Since she was a friend, I told her I'd be there.

Because right now, I don't have a car, and the party is about 20 miles away, I asked someone I knew for a ride, and they agreed to take me.

So... then I asked someone I knew online, who I was attracted to and wanted to meet, to go to the party with me, to meet me there. And though she said she was thinking of going to a concert tonight... she agreed.

Now the person that originally called me for a ride, called and said they couldn't take me after all. And I can't get ahold of my friend having the party, or the person who said she'd meet me there.

So now I'm going to look like a total jerk for not showing at my friend's party, and for standing up this girl and ruining her night when she could have gone to the concert.

I don't know what to do now, I'm totally in a panic and want to just crawl in a hole. Or cry, or something.

That's a really bad situation... I cannot even think of much in the way of advice, since you evidently cannot reach her by phone etc...is there any chance you could call the nightclub and ask them to help out? Or are there any buses that go there...taxi etc? If not, then I would suggest you don't torment yourself over it as it is out of your control... if this girl has your number and you don't turn up, surely she will call you?

I hope so. or hope she understands.

This weekend is totally screwed up. I just hope I didn't lose a friend or two over this.

They wouldn't have been very good friends to begin if they stopped being friends for something totally out of your control...I don't see there should be a problem if you are honest in your explanation of what went wrong.

Yeah, I totally agree. Just apologize and tell everybody what happened as soon as you can, and they should understand. Try not to worry about it (easier said than done sometimes!) because it's not your fault.

Barrow a bicycle and be there in about 1-2 hours.

Call a Taxi.

Hitch hike.

Run.

Hop a train.

Showing up late and sweaty and tired will impress her that you tried your best despite
great obstacle to be there.

Alas, it's too late for any of those. Not that any of them would have worked... Showing up wasn't the problem. Getting the 20-plus miles back home at 2am, that was the deal-breaker.

Not sure why you had to be back at 2 am but if it was merely logistics or missing a secondary appointment at 2 am standing between me and a date with a girl I found attractive then rules, laws, etc would have been broken because those things I can do having the social skills to land a date with a persons I'm attracted to is not something I
can easily do.

Well, the busses didn't start running again until 8 the next morning... and I'm not sleeping on the streets of Hollywood.

20 miles...could walk that in less than 8 hours.

don't know whether to make a lame joke or commiserate.

Its probably after the fact now anyway. (time zones).

Fallout from last night:

The girl I was supposed to meet, that I thought I was standing up... she got to feeling ill at the last moment, and didn't go herself. So, no harm, no foul.

I'm sure my birthday friend will forgive me.

My biggest question at the moment is, how to treat the person that left me in the lurch. Still be friendly with them, never speak to them again, or... ?

Just don't count on them again.
It's silly getting all overboard
just because someone else
has problems.

Unless they're doing stuff like that all the time, I just wouldn't worry about it. Even if they do do stuff like that all the time, they still might be a perfectly nice person who you just have to know not to necessarily count on.

If they apologize, no big deal. If you bring it up and they then apologize, again, not that big of a deal.
Everyone makes mistakes from time to time.

If you bring it up and they act like you are overreacting, act like they should hold no blame, etc, then it is a problem. How you deal with said problem is up to you.