death in the family just about coping

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so my grand mother died earlier today and i'm just about coping with it.dealing with all the family is taxing but having to face the wake in morning is where thing will no doubt become unbearable with all the other people around as i'm not good with big groups. any advice would be much appreciated.

Sorry to hear about your grandmother. The way I deal with things such as large groups is to prepare as much as possible beforehand. I try to imagine what it will be like, and I go through possible conversations in my head. I usually spend a very long time getting ready before I go.

If I do these things, it's somewhat easier to deal with. I still can't wait to leave, though.

When my father passed away from suicide, it left a tremendous gap in my life, but at the same time it helped me gain better insight into myself and also enabled me to correct the personal drawbacks in myself in order to become a better person. It was not a pleasant experience dealing with my dad's passing, but oddly, enough I can remember it in vivid detail.

When my cousin died I sat in a corner and red the Lord of the rings. Not because I was sad, but because I hated groups even if that group was my family. Don't be afraid to take time to be alone. I was in the same room as them, but it was a big room so I could be by myself. This allowed me not to get overwhelmed, but still have people there if I needed them. So if needed distance yourself and if anyone asks just say I can't handle groups right now. I wasn't sad because of my cousins death, but rather everyone else's emotions in association with it was overwhelming, and I hated groups.

Please accept my condolences and prayers on the loss of your dear grandmother, barber.

May your grandmother rest in peace.