Suicide in the Family

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pandemicpsyche

This is an email that my Dad sent me Yesterday. Patty is my stepmom, Megan has been my stepsister since I was 14, was a year or so younger than me, and also had Asperger's.


Snow,
This is just a brief fyi. Patty's daughter Megan died Thursday night. She was walking on train tracks near Lacey and was hit by the train. Patty will be spending the next few days making arrangements. I will be in touch.
Love Dad

Here is a news link to the story from her local paper.
http://www.theolympian.com/101/story/85273.html

This is a difficult thing emotionally for me right now. I've known Megan for awhile and while she always struck me as being somewhat disturbed and struggling in life, she was still very much a beautiful and worthwhile person. We hear of people dying every day. But mortality seems much more real when it happens so close to you.

Of course I don't think it was the Asperger's that killed her, more likely the co-morbid condition of being severely depressed her whole life that did it...

Tried just that a year ago. Was too drunk to
make it all the way up to the tracks. Sometimes
this life is just too damned hard to suffer through.


I'm sorry for your loss.

I am sorry too, for your loss.

in May of 1980 I was drunk riding my bike along the bikepath by Amazon Creek and lept off the bike, flinging myself through a guard rail and down into the creek, landing on the rocks. I laid there, struggling to get out for several hours until some guy jogging on the bike path in the middle of the night stumbled over my bike. I got a huge gash along one cheek from the gard rail and fractured several vertabrae. Obviously I didn't die, but I wanted to and still wish I had. What is there about Euguene? The Calipooya called it 'the valley of the little sickness' because of the air inversion and the spring time pollen.

Merle

I'm very sorry for your loss.

I am sorry for your loss. I cannot imagine what it is to lose anyone you know to suicide as it has never happened to me.
Sinsboldly...I wish you didn't wish you had died. I am glad you did not, though of course, I can fully understand the regret if your life has been one of pain since.

sorry, Graelwyn,
I didn't realize/forgot that we can cause discomfort to people who can't make things better when they see others suffering. I didn't mean to make you or anyone else feel uncomfortable. Yeah, I have physical pain and for a woman, a slash across the face can be a real problem in life, not to mention the crippled back. And I have no idea what death might bring, even though we often think that it is the land of all questions answered, and all.
I just know it takes the courage of a lifetime to propel yourself to deal death to your body.

It might be different when I go through my next sucidal episode now that I know I probably have AS and depression. That info might be helpful.

Merle

I am very sorry to hear this...

My niece killed herself in January 2004. She was 19. It was horrible, and I still don't know what to say to make things better because nothing seems to make things better, although I think it helps my sister to have someone to talk to because most people get sick of hearing about it after awhile. She's also found support groups for parents who lost a child to suicide, and that seems to help.

i`m so sorry for you're loss, and too everyone who have lost someone close too suicide.