Circles of fear

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16 Apr 2007, 1:27 pm

How do u deal with constant pain and fear how do u make it go away. I want to believe people really care but how can I, iv bean so wrong before and gotton so hurt. I don’t let people get close to proted my self I never cair to much because they leve. But someone slipped through. Now I am just holding my breath for the bad to come. Dose he care at all? Is he just using me? When will he leve? What is he saying about me when im not around? Running through my head over and over agen.

Don’t just tell me im paranoid, that is irrational and my fear is very rational considering what iv gown thro.

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16 Apr 2007, 1:36 pm

ProwlingParadox wrote:

Don’t just tell me im paranoid, that is irrational and my fear is very rational considering what iv gown thro.

I`m with you on this point.
Don`t know how much I can help though. I decided that the dull ache of loneliness is preferable to the excruciating agonies that people inflict on each other in the name of love.
You will get hurt in this relationship at some point but if there is enough pleasure in it to counteract that then you have try find some level of acceptance of the inevitable.
I do not know how people (NTs) can go from relationship to relationship and keep geting hurt and switching between loving one person then another.
If I ever have another relationship I want it to be based on mutual sharing of benefits to each other such as assetts, moral support, respect, physical need and be born out of more a business relationship than emotional one. There is hopefully more control of the situation then.

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16 Apr 2007, 10:30 pm

alexbeetle wrote:

I decided that the dull ache of loneliness is preferable to the excruciating agonies that people inflict on each other in the name of love.
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I disagree totally. Both pain and happiness are better than the dull blur of mere existance.

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21 Apr 2007, 7:08 pm

calandale wrote:

Both pain and happiness are better than the dull blur of mere existance.

while i would say that whether or not my WoW server is up and running DEFINITELY factors in on the matter.... generally speaking, you're right

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21 Apr 2007, 7:13 pm

ProwlingParadox wrote:

I get these issues as well, and as a result do my damndest to not get attached to anyone...as in truth, I am more stable when not attached. It is this sort of issue tho, that makes me frequently wonder if I am AS or if I have something else on top, as I don't know if many others with AS have this issue..it seems more of a borderline personality issue to me...