Killing Threads .. Ending Convo's .. even online .

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you know .. there is one thing i've noticed .. no matter where i go .. i am good at killing threads.. that is .. i read all the posts .. then type my honest opinion .. 2 cents worth .. and thats it .. no one comments back . . rarely does anyone even follow my post.. thats it .. the thread dies. in real life .. i have a way of pretty much doing the same thing!.. the only diff being .. in real life its harder to be part of a conversation! .. i do talk waaay too much .. despite the voice(s) in my head Screaming at me to "SHUT THE F UP!! !" .. still i yap yap yap .. believe me .. i don't like it either . .. and i know when i'm doing it .. but i can't shut up. i have one NT friend .. i have one friend.... she has taken my word for it when i told her she just had to be blunt . .. honest with me if she has to end the conversation in person or on the phone ..i appreciate her saying just that .. and if she has to say "Janis! I will call you later!" and hangs us .. i am ok with that .. takes me a sec .. but i am seriously ok with that .. what i hate is people bu!!shi!!ing me with excuses .. for some reason i can tell when i'm being lied to .. and # 1 it hurts, # 2 it screws my ability to trust that person.
Anyway .. there you go .. and there i go .. derailed.. detoured .. off on a tangent! .. well at least it seems relative!

So .. is there anyone here who will tell me what i'm doing online - esp here with others who i'm more like than any other planet? .. what the he!! am i doing wrong ??

Please ... ? and Thanks..

J

Trust me, sometimes I feel the same way. Sometimes when I post messages in a topic, it takes a while before anyone replies back. But if someone else posts, they get a reply faster than I would. Heck, sometimes I feel like I'm killing an entire forum! I mean, I post in one topic, and there's no replies in any board for a while!

That's probably what it seems like to most of us. I seem to kill a lot of threads. It probably just only seems that way.

lol happens to me all the time

janisjoplin,

Once an aspie has spoken there is nothing left to say, subject covered and closed.

Post something vauge about something vauge, that was on Oprah, there will be social chit chat from many.

Keep up the good work.

Half or more of this place is NT chatter.

My kid is, phone rings, me, ya, her, mom home, me, no, click.

People who can speak of nothing, who have feelings about the news, who speak from a soap box, and turn any statment to being about them, and their feelings, are not aspie.

The one aspie feeling is anger at stupidity.

On the issue of being lied to, they all are, some out of wanting to not say anything true, which they claim is for your own good, some because they have nothing to say, so string together some words, just like always, who knew it was supposed to have meaning, wa's sup dawg!

The ones that seem to make sense are trying to con you into or out of something.

They lie because they are managing you, because they do not really deal with people, they lie because they have no idea what is going on, all is chit chat, they lie because they are up to something.

Inventor is the last post on many threads.

They are NTs, or raised by NTs, some claim to have been AS but cured themselves and now they are here to helps us, others are trying to start an AA Meeting, they know all about AS because they spent thirty years in a bottle? It was not the twenty years shooting dope and the time in prison, it was AS, they are homosexual because of AS and want to make some new young friends, with money, after ten years in a mental hospital because of something that was the neighbors fault, they are taking eight pills a day and want to meet more people like the neighbors so they can get it right this time. They have AS no matter what those doctors say.

I read way too much, think most people not worth speaking at. I have a very strong interest in some subjects. State my opinion clearly, treat others like myself, harshly, and see no reason why I should support them emotionally, fill their needs, work on our relationship, because I am an aspie, their emotions are a fake, I do not care how needey they are, and we have no relationship.

I have few friends, they accept me like I am, or leave. I write, patent things, love business, and find most people incapable of telling the truth because they are incapable of ordering their thoughts.

An orderly block of thought is a thread killer, glad to meet you all.

I JUST WANT TO F**KING SCREAM NOW.

I know you don't give a rats ass about me or how bloody raw i am right now.

Even in here. I am soooooooo ready to just give up .. now that i have my lifelong question "wtf is wrong with me?" answered .. i have a new question: "wtf is the point?" i will debate with myself over that new question "why not just give up?" .. i really don't know the answer and i'm really not certain whether or not i will entertain it even 10% of the time i debated the first question.

so.. there you go - now i'm hijacking my own thread. now that i know i'm not the only thread killer (though it hasn't made me feel any better).. now that i have that sinking feeling that i won't be welcome at WP for much longer .. really .. what is the point of this existence? .. i know for certain that if i knew for certain that my future was just more of my past - it just wouldnt be. i've done that hang in there dance up to this moment .. and now i think its been just a colossal waste of that prescious resource .. air .. surely another species .. my cat .. would make better use of it. blahblahblah ..
screw it

now the thread is dead
long live the ball of yarn

It's not thread-killing, I think. When it happens to me (often enough) I figure that I posted after the thread ran out of steam. Even so it feels pretty bad.

You will always be welcome at WP, just like me and everybody else.

I hope I'm not giving the impression that my self-esteem is through the roof - it's lousy actually.

But neither you nor I should go around thinking that it's all about us. It isn't.

Claradoon .. you said "It's not thread-killing, I think. When it happens to me (often enough) I figure that I posted after the thread ran out of steam. Even so it feels pretty bad. " .. and you know .. of all my great thinking .. i hadn't considered that i had posted after a thread had run out of steam ..

and .. now i get what i didn't get .. that was said by Inventor a post before yours .. i think it was something like "when an Aspie speaks there is nothing left to say .. it is said.. " .. i'm paraphrasing of course .. but its pretty much the same ..

maybe i should just say .. its like a little light came on .. regarding my initial whine about being a thread killer! .. omg .. now i'm thinking .. wow .. i must think i'm some powerful .. lol .. and then i think . .. well .. hmmm.. that is something i can let go of .. i'm surprised to see myself say that .. "letting go" is alien stuff to me! .. alienation and letting go are 2 very different things!

i know as wacked as it sounds .. i feel less frustrated by some of these "things" .. and others .. like the dot dot dot ... ... crap .. can almost drive me to distraction ... but if i try to type without the frikkin ... dot dot .. omg .. well - You try it! lol .. anyway ..of course now i'm seeing it more grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr......... ok.. i'm not going to sh*t on me over it .. i'm going to do one thing at a time .. maybe i can practise typing without the dots ..

>>>>>> twilight zone ......... interlude ...........<<<<<<<<<<

and we're back .. long enough to say i won't bore you any more .. (for now!) .. its almost 2am omg .. zzzzZZZ .. but before i nod off i just thought that i should say thanks .. its not been an easy day .. and i know there are others here who've had a crap day too .. but you have given me a little light.. so thanks...

of course theres always 'one more thing'! maybe i should change my handle to dot

dot was my grandma's name.. interesting .. uh oh .. another 'connection' .. ok .. i gotta go .. thanks.

thanks for the welcomes here too .. i'll be back til you tell me to go.

I find it hard to read longer posts - especially when I'm not fresh.
So, when a thread has an intimidating and long post, I figure that
it says far too much for my normal silliness, and I just leave it alone.
Good chance I'm not the only one.

See, here's a good example. It's 5:23 a.m. I just fed the dog. I'm still bleary with sleep. Of course I can't just walk past the computer, I have to read my mail. And I'm very glad to read that you're not beating up on yourself about dead threads. Because, you see, I'm too sleepy to have anything to say, except 'glad to hear it!'

phew...

thanks claradoon .. and the rest who've been kind enough to express your own thoughts on this one .. and calendale .. Thanks for your honesty .. i know i'm very wordy .. and ya know what .. i don't like longggggggg posts much either!

so .. i'll work on the dots later! .. for now .. brevity!

i'm use to being misunderstood.. misinterpreted.. misdiagnosed.. mis mis mis .. its a big relief .. a huge sigh .. perhaps once i'm over feeling the Neeeed to explain and over explain .. (TMI) .. myself .. my posts will be more like this one .. short(er)!

Thanks all ..
misdot

There are areas of this site where longer posts seem to be the norm however.
But, if you don't like reading the longer ones, it might be difficult for you to
deal with these threads, as well.

I kill topics, I kill threads, I broke apart my family by causing depression in them, I kill groups of people(clans,guilds), I close down businesses, I also have a feeling I helped close down my last school. I think the problem is having any contact with me kills peoples spirits and negatively affects everything around.

I kill threads and topics all the time, if you can come up with another topic in real life than its no big deal.



Inventor, I think some of your posts on NT's are very generalized, like they have no real emotions or are incapable of ordering their thoughts.

If there's a reason for it, I understand you, but if not I'm not able to help you out!

I'm sorry!

Inventor's posts ring a lot of bells with me and I'm always glad to read them. He doesn't string thoughts like beads on a string, which is why I delight in reading him.

As for NT's, if you spent 50 years as an undiagnosed, scapegoated, bullied aspie trying desperately and failing to gain permission to exist, I wonder if you'd agree - I do. It's a whole different thing, depending which side of 1994 (diagnosis year) that you're on.