My current situation

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So I wanted to talk about my current situation in life to perhaps get some advice. Essentially I am not a very happy person and I kinda never was but perhaps you guys can help me atleast figure out something.

So here is my current situation. I'm 18 and currently do not have a job nor am I in college. I live with my family who says they care but treat me like dirt. Especially my stepmom who comes after me about everything I do an has even gone far as to blame me for her failing marriage and says she has almost devorced my dad because of me. My dad on the other hand says how much he cares but his actions say otherwise and he is a complete hippocrit and i keep trying to find some good in him. Both of my parents are consistantly fighting eachother about me and how i dont have a job or a life. My half-sister takes after my stepmom and asking her questions about how her days was annoy her. As for me I tend to not be motivated to do anything at all because I don't feel it will help make my life better. At this point I'm just a depressing person who is barely able to maintain the online friends he has now. As for jobs I have tried as hard as I can to find one. I put in applications left and right and even called a few places back but to no avail because most want work experience which I don't have. I also feel my Asperger's might be a factor.

I honestly have no idea what to do at all. If anyone could help me I would like that. I'm sorry this is depressing but I might as well come clean. For privacy concerns I left names out. I feel trapped like as if I'm in an emotional prison in my own home...

Edit: sorry if this is in the wrong catagory. I thought this would be the best place for this topic.

Are you seeing a therapist?

What jobs are you applying for?

You might need to set your standards lower and get a less than prestigious job working at minimum wage to get your foot in the door with work experience.

I am not seeing a therapist as my family doesn't have the money but to me it seems like they don't care (I have been asking them for years for a therapist) also I'm only applying for simple jobs like cashier or shelf stocker nothing prestigious.

I'm sorry you're going through this.

Have you considered applying for a community college? This will start you on the path towards further opportunities beyond retail/cashier type jobs.

In the meantime, continue to apply for jobs. It would take you away from your situation should you have a job; additionally, you would be earning your own money, and will be able to offer some to the family so that they respect you more.

I have and I'll be honest I have been a bit lazy with it, but my parents tend to make things alot more complicated then it needs to be. For instance I have been trying to get my permit for months now but my stepmom is too busy with work to really do anything and on her days off she doesn't want to do anything. My dad on the other hand has been telling me we were gonna get this done for months now but getting it done never comes. I kinda use it as poor excuse not to study which isn't a good thing. This also applies to collage as well. I had my financial papers done and what not and I had the envelope ready to go and asked my stepmom to bring it to the post office on her way to work which she didn't do. Later she tells me I should have walked to the post office myself and says I need a stamp and after that it kinda dwindled out of our minds because of new issues. As for collage I will have to go online but the lack of a computer won't make it easy. My parents greatly oppose me having a computer cause I play games on it. The computer's motherboard was fried on Valentine's day (ironic isn't it?).

Anyway sorry for the wall of text. I hate making walls because most people don't like reading them.

Is there a nearby industrial park where you could apply in person?

Nope, no industrial park. There are very few jobs around here sadly.

You should really get the ball rolling as far as your license and college are concerned.

Otherwise, your parents will continue to be pains in the butts.

It's not going to be easy. My dad has been holding off on my permit for a while. Been on him about it for months. As for collage I can't do that unless I have a job to get a car and get stuff for collage. I have a feeling financial aid might be out of my reach. I want to try getting into collage for the summer semester...

Why can't you go down to the DMV yourself? What state are you in? Do you have a passport or some kind of student picture ID?

You're 18. You can do this yourself. It's not that bad. Take a number. Sit down and read. They'll call you. You pay the money. You'll be given a test. If you pass, they'll take your picture and give you a temporary permit. They'll mail you the actual permit.

I can't because I would need someone to drive me to the dmv in this case my parents and I am in Pennsylvania. Otherwise I would once I study a bit more.

Is there some kind of public transportation? I guess you're in a pretty rural area.

Why can't your parents drive you down to the DMV while they run errands in town or something?

As for the community college, your parents can drive you there while they run their errands, too.

There's got to be someone who would be willing to drive you. Ask a neighbor, ask anyone that you know. Do what you have to in order to get out of the situation you are in, even if it's something that you are not comfortable doing. Or you could be stuck there for years with no life.

Take charge of your life however you have to, because it's extremely important for your happiness and well-being.

The neighbors hate us because of my parents so I can't ask them also my closest relative lives an hour away. There is no public transportation as i live in a borough. I literally have no one who can drive me. I have to wait on my parents. I have no choice. As for taking charge of my life I'm not sure how to be honest.

How much a walk is the DMV? If it's within three miles, I'd do it.