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13 Mar 2016, 1:29 pm

Life just feels like jumping from one anxiety inducing situation to the next. Personal life stressful, work life stressful. I can't even sleep to get away from it all. I'm so tired.



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13 Mar 2016, 3:30 pm

Can soothing music or some kind of hot drink help?



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13 Mar 2016, 3:56 pm

Good idea. Do something to distract myself. Decided to do some pilates exercises to distress.



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13 Mar 2016, 11:32 pm

I keep waking up in the middle of the night these days. I'm sick of not being able to get enough sleep. I'm sick of feeling anxious

How do other people manage to get through life. I'm just sick of having to push myself through every day.



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14 Mar 2016, 12:12 am

I am utterly and totally sick of being alive. It's just constant stress and unhappiness with the occasional enjoyable blip. Only 50 more years to go.

Having to deal with people is the worst thing. I never know if people actually like me or if they just tolerate me. I feel so lonely. I have 0 self esteem.

All I do is just push myself through every exhausting awful pain filled day.



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14 Mar 2016, 1:30 am

Yeah, I've been there too a few times. What I have found helps is starting some project relating to my special interests. In my case that included things like building model rockets, creating computer programs, designing and building various contraptions, and trying to solve mathematical puzzles I come up with. I generally get so involved in whatever I am doing that I forget about everything else, and the sense of accomplishment I get afterwards is enough to boost my self esteem for a while. It can be hard to get started, but I never regret it. In the words of Anakin Skywalker: "life is always so much simpler when you're fixing things".


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15 Mar 2016, 8:28 am

Hurtloam, how are you feeling today? I know exactly what you mean. I could have written your posts on some of my more difficult days. I'm not sure I have any solutions for you, as I'm still trying to work out what the best solution is for me, but I can share a few thoughts. I find vigorous exercise, being outdoors and/or doing something I love makes me feel better, although sometimes not completely. Recognising that I have limitations also helps - I can't take on everyone else's problems or too many responsibilities. I probably need to socialise a little bit more, although because I have few friends that can be difficult.

Medication and therapy can help some people. I personally haven't had much luck with antidepressant medication (which is also used for anxiety). It dulls my anxiety but makes me apathetic and lethargic, though your experience may not be mine. As for therapy, things like mindfulness and cognitive behavioural therapy are supposed to help people break out of the thinking patterns that lead to anxiety, but I have yet to find a way into these techniques that interests me. Again, your mileage may differ. Have you tried any of those things?



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15 Mar 2016, 3:52 pm

Got enrolled in a 15 months (twice a week) of night courses in Mobile development - that will keep me busy.

I will start this soon.



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16 Mar 2016, 2:43 am

That sounds interesting boo.

Lockheart I feel a bit better now. It's dealing with people that stresses me out the most. I just always feel like I'm on the outside looking in.



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19 Mar 2016, 2:28 pm

I don't think I have words for how unhappy I am. It's worse when you think things might work out, but everything falls apart almost straight away. Life is so hard. I'm just sick of it.



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19 Mar 2016, 3:08 pm

What do you like to do Hurtloam?
As in hobbies and such, things that make you happy, or give you enjoyable head-space.



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19 Mar 2016, 3:17 pm

I like painting. I haven't painted a picture in a long time. I've been saving images from instagram that I like, so I can paint them at a later date.

I also like sewing but I've been too tired lately. If I sew when I can't concentrate I make mistakes and have to unpick what I've done.

I like going for walks in the country side and taking photos.



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19 Mar 2016, 3:36 pm

I like art, country walks and taking photos too, have you ever heard of process art? Where the end product is not the aim.

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Set a timer for 3 minutes and just start writing. Just like in process-painting there isn’t a right or wrong way to do it. If it doesn’t make sense, perfect. Just write whatever comes to mind. Do this as much or as little as feels right for you.
Examples:
If I knew I couldn’t get it wrong I would…..?
If I truly believed in myself I would…?
If I didn’t care what________thought, I would….?
What have I resisted today?
If I wasn’t afraid I would?

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Doodle. It seems extremely basic but doodling can drop us down into our heart space just as process-painting can and you can do it just about anywhere. Get elaborate with your doodles using colored pencils, magic markers and crayons or keep it simple using just one pen. The trick is not to get hung up on where you are going. Trust whatever happens without erasing anything.Just doodle and let the images create themselves. Also, just scribbling can be really amazing too.
Work with your hands. A few weeks ago one of our dear painters brought in some tiny playdough tubs. It’s now a mainstay at the studio gathering table and is part of our closing circle. Plus, the smell can transport you right back to being a kid. Hey, you could write about that!
Dance by yourself to some of your favorite music. Even if it’s just 3 minutes, it can change the entire trajectory of your day.


I use this technique for warming up when I haven't drawn anything for a while.
A scribble can become almost anything, I liked this example :)
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Or this
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19 Mar 2016, 5:20 pm

Great thread.
I keep toys around home and work. I've given away many of them and need to restock squishy stress things.
Play Ukulele
Zentangles and I bought two sets of twistable colored pencils.
Cardio 2 to 3 times a week
Watch old movies , TV including animated ones.
Volunteer gets me out of my head, a place I don't want to stay in alone.
My mirror has collections of things/sayings.


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20 Mar 2016, 11:38 am

Amity wrote:
I like art, country walks and taking photos too, have you ever heard of process art? Where the end product is not the aim.
Quote:
Set a timer for 3 minutes and just start writing. Just like in process-painting there isn’t a right or wrong way to do it. If it doesn’t make sense, perfect. Just write whatever comes to mind. Do this as much or as little as feels right for you.
Examples:
If I knew I couldn’t get it wrong I would…..?
If I truly believed in myself I would…?
If I didn’t care what________thought, I would….?
What have I resisted today?
If I wasn’t afraid I would?

Play:

Doodle. It seems extremely basic but doodling can drop us down into our heart space just as process-painting can and you can do it just about anywhere. Get elaborate with your doodles using colored pencils, magic markers and crayons or keep it simple using just one pen. The trick is not to get hung up on where you are going. Trust whatever happens without erasing anything.Just doodle and let the images create themselves. Also, just scribbling can be really amazing too.
Work with your hands. A few weeks ago one of our dear painters brought in some tiny playdough tubs. It’s now a mainstay at the studio gathering table and is part of our closing circle. Plus, the smell can transport you right back to being a kid. Hey, you could write about that!
Dance by yourself to some of your favorite music. Even if it’s just 3 minutes, it can change the entire trajectory of your day.


I use this technique for warming up when I haven't drawn anything for a while.
A scribble can become almost anything, I liked this example :)
Image
Or this
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Very, very nice work....wow........ 8O


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20 Mar 2016, 11:57 am

^I thought so too! Its not mine, just examples of what scribble art can look like.