Do little things bug you?

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11 Apr 2007, 2:13 pm

This might be more OCD-related, but little things like not being able to find some random thing that has no meaning to me (like a stamp or a random toy) will make me go crazy with anxiety and I become obsessed with finding it, not being able to get the thought of it out of my head.. or when I accidently tape over something that wasn't really a big deal to me when I had it now makes me feel as if I just lost something huge in my life that I will never get back. When I feel like this I cannot concentrate what-so-ever on anything else no matter how hard I try to get my mind focused on other things. Any advice about this/similar stories that you have?


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11 Apr 2007, 2:25 pm

Yes I get like that too! It's like if I get an idea in my head to do something, I HAVE to complete the action or... I don't know, something in my brain feels unfinished, like a story without an ending or something. I think it's more about that than about the actual object. It's quite literally like having your mind on one "track" and being unable to change over to another one until you reach the end of that track.

I'm the same with disrupted plans, even if it's something small like planning on renting a particular movie and then not being able to find it. I'll drive to every store in the area to find it, not because I cared THAT much about seeing the movie, but because I had already planned on watching it and now if I don't find it I have to completely rewrite my conception of what's going to happen that evening.



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11 Apr 2007, 4:02 pm

If I don't fix it I just feel depressed and start feeling guilty or regretful. Then after awhile I look back on the thing that was bothering me and think, "Wow, what was the big deal?!" I think it sometimes helps when I talk to someone and have them tell me that what I'm worrying about isn't a realistic thing to worry about/isn't worth the worry and isn't the big deal I'm making it out to be. But its so hard because it makes me feel so bad at the time, it feels like such a big problem, and I feel like I'll never get over it. Sometimes I can't "fix" the problem either. Like what you said about the movie, what do I do if the movie isn't in any store at all in the world or womething? Like if its something that is impossible to fix/find/make me feel better, I just can't stand it!


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11 Apr 2007, 4:53 pm

Yes, if I suddenly have a thought of something, I have to look until I find it and cannot really relax until I do. IT is a little OCD really. I used to throw major tantrums when I found something missing or moved when younger, and I still do even now.


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12 Apr 2007, 11:04 pm

Good to know I'm not the only one. I hate when it happens. I get so mad at my brain for not moving on from it.


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13 Apr 2007, 9:51 am

I do this also, though things are not so much of a big deal to me as they used to be. Maybe my meds help with that, but im not too convinced.



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14 Apr 2007, 4:04 am

No meds have ever helped with this or anything really. I think they helped slightly with depression when I had it, but not to the extent I expected.


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25 Apr 2007, 4:50 pm

I can't stand the anxiety I feel when I loose things, especially pictures. I can't concentrate on anything else when I can't find something. my whole life revolves around finding it, and a lot of times I never do end up finding it. I hate not being able to focus my mind on something else. :(


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25 Apr 2007, 7:25 pm

....Depends.



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26 Apr 2007, 1:21 am

I have some stories.

When I was 8-12 I was really into Lego models (the ones with instructions that you followed). Occasionally my mother had to move the models to vacuum the carped underneath and pieces would invariably fall off (like the antanna of a spaceship, or a wing tip piece). If something ever went missing I’d accuse her of vacuuming the piece up and go off the deep end. I would insist that my parents send in an order for the missing piece. I'd stay in an extremely irritable, angry mood for days until they agreed to order a new piece. I couldn't really help my reaction as I felt like my life would be ruined if I couldn't replace the missing piece.

I also had several small bins and plastic bags for specific models that I had taken apart (these were models with specific sets of instructions) and one larger bin with miscellaneous pieces that I used to make “freestyle” models (i.e. not following any instructions). One time my parents had some people visit with small children. I was not home and the children played with my Legos and mixed all the pieces from the different bins together. I had to spend the next three weeks sorting through all the pieces and putting the models back together just to make sure there weren’t any missing pieces. I couldn’t do anything else until I finished reconstructing the models and was positive there weren't any missing peices.



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26 Apr 2007, 1:39 am

I get slightly annoyed when the room I go in looks in any way different than to when I last went in. I also go all funny when I have to look at a 90 degree angle edge out of the corner of my eye 8O
Edit: or anything over 90, I guess.



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26 Apr 2007, 2:44 am

Obviously they’re not “little things” if they cause you so much anxiety. :wink: Do you feel like something "bad" will happen if you don't find said stamp or toy?

If yes: “OC” OCD
If no: I don't know.... I don't know much about pure "O" OCD, it could be; it might not be. It's obviously an obsession...and not finding said object means you have no control over it; control is pretty damn important to those on the 'trum.



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28 Apr 2007, 12:30 am

marshall wrote:
I have some stories.

When I was 8-12 I was really into Lego models (the ones with instructions that you followed). Occasionally my mother had to move the models to vacuum the carped underneath and pieces would invariably fall off (like the antanna of a spaceship, or a wing tip piece). If something ever went missing I’d accuse her of vacuuming the piece up and go off the deep end. I would insist that my parents send in an order for the missing piece. I'd stay in an extremely irritable, angry mood for days until they agreed to order a new piece. I couldn't really help my reaction as I felt like my life would be ruined if I couldn't replace the missing piece.

I also had several small bins and plastic bags for specific models that I had taken apart (these were models with specific sets of instructions) and one larger bin with miscellaneous pieces that I used to make “freestyle” models (i.e. not following any instructions). One time my parents had some people visit with small children. I was not home and the children played with my Legos and mixed all the pieces from the different bins together. I had to spend the next three weeks sorting through all the pieces and putting the models back together just to make sure there weren’t any missing pieces. I couldn’t do anything else until I finished reconstructing the models and was positive there weren't any missing peices.


Those stories are similar to some of mine.

I'm not sure if I feel like something bad will happen if I don't find the thing, I just feel incomplete without it. Like I'm a bad person for not being able to find it, for throwing certain things in the trash (like a stamp with a cute picture on it), and I just feel nervous and that my life is ruined, sometimes I go into depression for weeks over it. I think it does have to do with control issues because all of my friends and family say I'm extremely controlling of my environment, and when things don't go my way I feel nervous, angry, or depressed. They're like spells, and once the spell ends I think, "Wow Melody that wasn't worth worrying about!!" But then the spells come back, and I think, "Oh no not again."


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28 Apr 2007, 12:37 am

marshall wrote:
I have some stories.

When I was 8-12 I was really into Lego models (the ones with instructions that you followed). Occasionally my mother had to move the models to vacuum the carped underneath and pieces would invariably fall off (like the antanna of a spaceship, or a wing tip piece). If something ever went missing I’d accuse her of vacuuming the piece up and go off the deep end. I would insist that my parents send in an order for the missing piece. I'd stay in an extremely irritable, angry mood for days until they agreed to order a new piece. I couldn't really help my reaction as I felt like my life would be ruined if I couldn't replace the missing piece.

I also had several small bins and plastic bags for specific models that I had taken apart (these were models with specific sets of instructions) and one larger bin with miscellaneous pieces that I used to make “freestyle” models (i.e. not following any instructions). One time my parents had some people visit with small children. I was not home and the children played with my Legos and mixed all the pieces from the different bins together. I had to spend the next three weeks sorting through all the pieces and putting the models back together just to make sure there weren’t any missing pieces. I couldn’t do anything else until I finished reconstructing the models and was positive there weren't any missing peices.


Those stories are similar to some of mine.

I'm not sure if I feel like something bad will happen if I don't find the thing, I just feel incomplete without it. Like I'm a bad person for not being able to find it, for throwing certain things in the trash (like a stamp with a cute picture on it), and I just feel nervous and that my life is ruined, sometimes I go into depression for weeks over it. I think it does have to do with control issues because all of my friends and family say I'm extremely controlling of my environment, and when things don't go my way I feel nervous, angry, or depressed. They're like spells, and once the spell ends I think, "Wow Melody that wasn't worth worrying about!!" But then the spells come back, and I think, "Oh no not again."


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