Really upset and betrayed

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I know it's a really stupid thing to get upset about but it is bothering me

I haven't been around aspies and thought using wrongplanet I could talk and discuss things with people who understood

Yey in trying to help someone I've been hurt and my name disgraced. I have been painted as this horrible person. It just really gets to me because that's not who I am

I just wanted to help people

Now someone is accusing me of talking about them and being mean just because I was confused about something

There are multiple posts attack me, the post and my views and despite reporting them they are still up hating me and saying how I'm not a nice person. They sit there and haunt me. I try to defend myself but nothing I say is right, a judgement has already been made

I came here to help my depression not make it worse.

I can't believe how much a person you don't even know can get to you.

I think that you need to worry less about what is being said about you. I don't think that most people think that you're a bad person.

You don't really know the people here, and it's probably not a good idea to trust people who you don't know, anyway. Especially online.

You seem like a nice person and I don't think that you should let this get you down. I'm sure that you are probably naturally sensitive and easily affected by these things. I used to be that way, too.

But there are always going to be people that don't like you for whatever reason, even if you are nice.

I can deal wih people being plain mean but this just really got to me

There are certain users on this site that should just be ignored. Don't let them get to you.

(((hugs))) I hope you stick around and don't let a few bad apples ruin WP for you.

There's lotsa really fragile people around here. Sometimes people just manage to trigger each other's insecurities without having any idea how painful a certain topic is for the other. Then the second person interprets the first person's intentions in the worst way possible, because they don't have much insight into their thought processes.

This happens over and over again.

Maybe you guys can just go fly fishing a bit in your separate locations, and then agree that you are not great company for each other.

Don't worry so much. It's painful and shocking now, but you'll get over it. I know, I've been really, really freaked out when I've thought I really hurt someone. There are lots of nice people here and lots of interesting topics. The other person has troubles of their own that they need to deal with, but that is not your responsibility.

I've mostly been lurking around here for years and am very new to posting, but thought I would chime in and let you know that I have seen you around commenting on things and I would never think you were a bad person. You've always made it clear what your intentions are in your posts, or at least I have thought so. Anyway, some people allow the bad to heavily influence their perception and see the worst in everyone and themselves. If you are in a bad place, it's hard to see the hand reaching toward you is helping you rather than slapping you. It's a hard thing to escape from, and I hope you don't take it personally. I agree with the others that I don't think it is really about YOU at all. It's more just a lot of misunderstanding and past hurts.

If it's important to you than it's important to talk about here.

You seem like a sweet and sensitive person. I rather enjoy your posts. ☺

Hi, I've read some of your posts here and I consider you a kind and caring person. (((hugs)))

I really sorry

Most WP'ers will have challenges from time to time, you cant know what they will be, but someone generally has a wobbler in reaction to something/a post on a regular enough basis.

I'm sorry it happened to a new member, especially one so friendly, the thing is, at various points most people here have tried to help sly, and some people have had the same experience as you, its not cool, but I don't think anyone knows what to say to him anymore, it has all been said and rejected. I kind of hope that each time a new member talks with him that something will click and he will move forward, that's why I wouldn't intervene.

To be fair he was hounded by a troll that took exception to his posts, and it was awful to watch, they couldn't ban her for long, she kept coming back with a different IP address.
Yet in it all I hope sly that you remember how people here supported you during that time, that you were shown kindness and compassion, perhaps you too could extend the same courtesy to new members like Alliekit, people you have no history with.

Yes, that is her, and it was extreme.

You have been in several threads I have joined in on and I think your posts are always nice and helpful. But people are people and you will cross paths with some that don't match how you think unfortunately.

*hugs*

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I don't have a problem with you.

I think the principle of attacking the idea not the person, is the way to go.

If I have been hard on everyone, it is their ideas I target. When folk they try an defame me I have something to say about it though.

You're a kind and supportive person.
I think a lot of people here will say the same thing, so try not to let the words and actions of 1 or 2 people lead you to think otherwise.