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15 May 2007, 7:21 am

I finished my first year at university a few weeks ago (apart from exams) and since then I think I've gone a bit weird. More so than usual I mean. And all I can put it down to is that I've lost my normal routine. I didn't miss one day this year and went into all my lectures, so there wasn't a point where my routine was disrupted, apart from over Christmas etc. But since I've left I've not been getting up early because I don't know what to do. I haven't been going to the library like I usually do, or sitting in my corner in lectures.

So I just don't really know what I'm supposed to do now. I have no more lectures until September but I don't want to continue like this. I have no motivation, I don't do the usual things I do, I keep getting really depressed for short periods of time and then really hyper again, and I keep getting frustrated with people and starting arguments all the time. This just pisses everyone else off and makes me feel even worse. I also seem to have no sense of time either. When I was in uni every week I could work out where abouts in the week/year I was based on that. Now I just feel like I'm stuck randomly in some pointless slot of nothingness. And I don't even know what I mean by that myself.

Anyway, I just wanted to complain about it and had nowhere else to put it so I thought I'd post it here.
Sorry for boring anyone who bothered to read it. 8)



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15 May 2007, 7:40 am

Yes, there are times when I need to focus and keep to my routine or I am absolutely befuddled..I never have worn a watch so time is something that is not essential, I just know how much I need to work on something, before moving on...How about starting a project today? Go to a park with your cat and read something you have been interested in, just begin to begin ...relax today, play sudoku, cards, whatever you like to do that makes you feel happy and content...We live in such a hurried world that you are blessed to have some time for yourself...enjoy your day! Peace.....



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15 May 2007, 7:52 am

Sopho: do you think getting a job would help with some of this stuff.if you treat it like your lectures it may help you get back in the rutiene...
If you don't think it will help at least get a calender to solve this:

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I also seem to have no sense of time either. When I was in uni every week I could work out where abouts in the week/year I was based on that. Now I just feel like I'm stuck randomly in some pointless slot of nothingness. And I don't even know what I mean by that myself.
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:? Not sure what eles to say


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15 May 2007, 7:56 am

Raph522 wrote:
Sopho: do you think getting a job would help with some of this stuff.if you treat it like your lectures it may help you get back in the rutiene...
If you don't think it will help at least get a calender to solve this:
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I also seem to have no sense of time either. When I was in uni every week I could work out where abouts in the week/year I was based on that. Now I just feel like I'm stuck randomly in some pointless slot of nothingness. And I don't even know what I mean by that myself.

:? Not sure what eles to say

I have thought about getting a job but that would be difficult because of my social enxiety and my problems with getting public transport. The only place round here I could get a job would be in a shop as well, which would probably just make me worse. I will do the calendar thing though. My mum drew me up a timetable for my exams etc which helped so maybe I just need to plan things or something.



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15 May 2007, 7:57 am

I finish my first year of Uni in a couple of weeks and I think i'm going to find myself a little bit lost too. I get up at 06:30 each morning regardless of when my lectures are so I think I will end up filling the time with walks so that I feel i'm still doing something in that time.

When I was ill with phneumonia a few weeks ago I kept on trying to go into my lectures because I didn;t want to go out of routine. It was really difficult because I would get sent home to rest by my tutors. :(


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15 May 2007, 8:00 am

Mr_Winston wrote:
I finish my first year of Uni in a couple of weeks and I think i'm going to find myself a little bit lost too. I get up at 06:30 each morning regardless of when my lectures are so I think I will end up filling the time with walks so that I feel i'm still doing something in that time.

When I was ill with phneumonia a few weeks ago I kept on trying to go into my lectures because I didn;t want to go out of routine. It was really difficult because I would get sent home to rest by my tutors. :(

Yeah I've dragged myself in evn when I've been getting migraines and practically had to lie down in my chair lol.
I've been in seminars where only one other person has bothered to turn up as well, so nothing stops me really. The only time I've missed anything was the day I was diagnosed with Aspergers because I had to leave early to get the train. I went in for my morning lectures though.



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15 May 2007, 9:56 am

working in a shop doesn't need to mean working with customers. See if you can get a job stocking shelves or such. I realize this is work from the bottom of the economic food chain, but it will give your day structure and put a few coins in your pocket.



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15 May 2007, 10:08 am

As far as jobs go, I stick to clerical/office stuff. It's just something I've gotten used to over time, and thankfully I now have an office job where I'm self-managed, and pretty much left alone. I don't have to answer the phone, don't have to deal with any complaining customers -- just endure my co-workers, which has become easier over time. I don't even want to go back to college (I dropped out), I just want to work in low-level, low-stress office jobs the rest of my life, earning a moderate wage. I've done it for ten years so far.


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15 May 2007, 11:06 am

Sopho, I sympathise. The place I volunteer at has recently become chaotic and the routine has gone to s**t and I'm at a loss there. Some of us need to have our day shaped for us!


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