Time for life insurance

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My husband is talking about not wanting to live anymore because of this election and I over heard him telling my mother he doesn't see life worth living so he isn't going to be eating healthy and other things. This worries me. I decided I better start looking into life insurance so that way if he does die because he is neglecting his health and body because he is so depressed and upset and stressed out about the whole Trump and Russia thing, my kids will be covered so I have the money to live and take care of them and not have to be a burden to my parents.

I see. One of my friends also was very upset following the election he sort of gave up on the world for a bit. I wasn't feel to great myself either I mainly just huddled in my room.

But hey if their is anything I can do to reassure your husband it is that the worst of what Trump wants is unlikely to fall through. Currently the GOP only have a small senate majority and their are enough moderates like Lindsey Graham that will vote with the Democrats rather than backing Trump. So its not like the new president has a free reign.

I hope your husband feels better soon. I guess with Trump all we can do is wither the storm and show up again for 2018.

My husband decided it's the new medicine making him feel this way and he is going to tell the doctor about it because he had never felt that way before when he said those things. My mom thinks Trump will be the next Nixon and get impeached. That was reassurance for him and saying people will find out quick. Of course Nixon resigned before he could be so it didn't happen. I am still going to look into life insurance though.

In my advice just do what you can to reassure him. It seems to sort of work at least so why not carry on. One of my friends discussed suicidal thoughts following Trump's election they have since been brought down slightly since then.

Does your husband have anything?

I am not sure what you mean by if he has anything. He has his computer and his cane and his braces and all his clothes and lighter and cigars.

My husband decided it was the pills making him that way and he told me today he was feeling better and he wasn't going to be taking his medicine anymore until he goes back to his doctor. He doesn't know which medicine made him feel that way and he told me what he said out loud at night scared him. I told him about wanting to file for life insurance and he told me they wouldn't give me any money if he killed himself. But I told him he could die from anything else because he doesn't see life worth living so I feel he is at risk for death and he kept telling me he isn't going to kill himself and he doesn't know why everyone keeps saying it. I told him it was because he said he doesn't find it worth to live and he told me there is a big difference between not finding it worth to live and committing suicide. To me they both sound the same but to him they are different. I also told him about the suicide hotline he can call and he told me again "I am not going to kill myself."

But he is feeling better today because he hasn't taken his medicine in a few days because he ran out.

What I meant was does he have any conditions etc that make him prone to feeling this way?

Does your husband follow politics allot and is informed?

This is the first time he has ever been into this politics like this. He has seizures, brain damage, three different learning disabilities, anxiety, nasal disease, depression, birth defect in his ankles, and possible OCD. Several doctors have told him he shows signs of autism but he never wants to get it checked out because he is afraid he would have it and that would mean he has another thing wrong with him and he also finds it a waste of money if they say he doesn't have it. He doesn't think he has it anyway.

I see. It sounds like your husband had it tough. Medication for depression might be good if you have not already done that.

Since your husband is worried about a an upcoming Trump presidency their are some ways to put a handle on that I think at least. From 2011-2012 when I was worried about the Mayan calendar I had to be reassured 20 times a day that the world was not going to end. My behaviour was obsessional and compulsive for sure but it worked it calmed me down tremendously. I think that giving this kind of constant reassurance might work.

Trump is bad for the country as a whole in my eyes. But in my eyes one thing he is not is fascist and it is important to take that into account.

Sounds like your husband is struggling with a lot of things. Worrying about Trump, though, is just borrowing trouble. Feeling so low requires a certain level of discipline to not let it destroy you. I sometimes remind myself of the serenity prayer:

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
Courage to change the things I can,
And wisdom to know the difference.

I'm not even religious, but it's just good sense. There is very little point in being sad about things that havent happened yet - although I do understand that the autistic urge to be prepared for every eventuality can run amok - you did say your husband has autistic traits.

A person can't focus so much on all the bad stuff. There must be some good things to focus on as well.