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It seems a lot of people treat me differently. They act very depressed and indifferent around me while acting friendly towards everyone else. I know it doesn't sound like a big deal, but these things happen every day almost everywhere I go. It happens at work, when I get groceries, when I go shopping and when I use to go to school it also happened there. A lot of people either seem to feel sorry for me or bully me. Some people even seem to feel sorry for me when I'm in a good mood and feeling confident. If they treated other people this way it wouldn't bother me so much because maybe they would just be having a bad day or something, but it's always just me they do this to. I also feel like I get misunderstood by a lot of people because when I say things it with no bad intentions it seems like they get defensive. Then sometimes when I'm talking to someone, even when I need to, they give me this disgusted look. I also feel like I say a lot of things that don't come out the way I want and them I get misunderstood even more. It was really bad today. I sometimes just don't want to talk to anyone and shut them out like they aren't there and just do my job. Some days it doesn't bother me that much, but today I just couldn't handle it. I also feel like I can't trust anyone.

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I think part of the problem is that I didn't get enough sleep and that causes me to have more trouble communicating with people. I've been working out for the last couple of months so that I can try to get more sleep and cope with it better.

The paranoia is the thing to watch out for, because that creates a negative feedback loop. When you feel paranoid in a situation then you begin to act strangely, which makes people act strangely around you, which then makes you more paranoid. It's hard to get out of that loop. (There was a great Bob Newhart joke about this.)

From the posts you've made before I can't help but think there must be something unusual in your manner of speaking, perhaps, that seems a bit "off" and that people pick up on and interpret incorrectly. I wonder if a consultation with a speech therapist would be beneficial. They could possibly identify elements in your speaking behavior that you could adjust to produce the kind of outcome you're looking for. There might be ways to do this online also, by posting video clips of yourself speaking, but an in-person consultation might be most effective.

(Just trying to think constructively out loud.)

I can't always tell whether I'm being paranoid or if they really do have bad intentions though. It seems like it really is happening though because certain people would do the same things and it also happens a lot. What I usually do when this happens is keep my distance from that person and if I know for sure that I'm being picked on I sometimes act like they don't exist. I don't know how else I would respond exactly. I feel like if I try to act friendly towards them it would only give them more power. Maybe I'm overthinking, but it's hard to know how to respond if you don't really know what someone's intentions are.

I think being tired causes me to have lots of trouble interacting with others and also causes me to talk more soft and slow. Earlier today I was very tired because I didn't get much sleep the might before, but now I feel more alert and I seem to do much better with communicating with others.

This happens to me too. We probably have something very obvious (physically) that people (even strangers) can immediately pick up on. Personally, I think my problem is my eyes.