I severed ties with a former close friend

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I severed ties with a former close friend online, by unfriending them on facebook.
I'm feeling guilty about this I guess, but there was emotional attachment involved, regret and a missed opportunity.
I've been enduring and suffering for a while over a painful history regarding this, and I felt it was necessary to move on.
I will have to take responsibility for the consequences of my actions.
I don't know whether this was wrong, but it's done.

You're not alone.
I did something similar.

I still wish the person well and hope she's doing all right.
That said, I had tried contacting this person precisely for that reason ...
to see if she was doing all right, because she had said she was going into the hospital.
Then she ended up not going ... and was not responding to my messages asking if she were okay,
even though she was clearly active on social media,
including during the time when allegedly she said she'd be in the hospital.
Basically, I got the feeling that she was trying to lead me on to worrying about her,
and then just casually goofing off on social media like nothing was wrong.
At that point, I figured that I had had enough of her mind games.

Taking care of a friend is a good thing.
That said, there are times when you need to take care of yourself.

In your case, I can't say whether what you did was the right thing or the wrong thing.
Nor can I give you advice.
I can say that I hope things get better for you.

I severed ties with a former close friend online, by unfriending them on facebook.
I'm feeling guilty about this I guess, but there was emotional attachment involved, regret and a missed opportunity.
I've been enduring and suffering for a while over a painful history regarding this, and I felt it was necessary to move on.
I will have to take responsibility for the consequences of my actions.
I don't know whether this was wrong, but it's done.
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sometimes, i sever ties that i should not have severed.

but, my usual modus operandi is to fail to sever ties that i should have severed. and then some idiot acts like he/she has a moral entitlement to get/do/become anything, legal or illegal. and i have to passive aggressively tolerate it. and if i ever have the nerve to say something about what they did, even if what they did was illegal, they have the nerve to tell me "you got mad." instead of "got annoyed". and then when i do something they do not like, they label anything i do they do not like as "disrespectful" or "rude". and then he/she calls himself/herself "we", "people", or "most people". as if he/she overpowers me b/c he/she outnumbers me. but there is just one of her and just one of me.

besides, what is so great about "most people"? the solar system contains more convicted rapists, than number of Nobel Prize winners in Literature. it does not necessarily follow that the activity with more participants, must be more morally justified.



but, in any event. whatever. quite frankly, i get the impression that almost everyone i have ever interacted with acted like he/she was the greatest thing since sliced bread. they grossly overestimated their importance.

they acted like they were so important.

anyways, here's the thing: even if i were wrong, as in factually incorrect, or logically wrong, or morally wrong, who cares? b/c even if i were wrong, they were not worth as much energy as it took to interact with them.

right or wrong
you need to move on.

hi samtoo,

I think, with regard to friendships/relationships that involve 'emotional attachment, regret, and missed opportunity', it is in fact, best to sever ties, if there is no possibilty of the situation improving, so that, you can begin to grieve the loss and heal your heart. I am sorry for your loss, samtoo.