How lame is this?

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I feel like I have been living with a victim mentality for so long that getting out of thinking like that feels completely alien to me.

Choosing to let it go is easy. Actually letting it go after making the decision is not easy at all.

Any ideas?

Maybe as you continue reminding yourself not to be a victim, it will become second nature and you will change. Maybe. Ive had to talk myself out of being a victim many times. Its not easy to stop but once you get the hang of catching yourself everytime you think like a victim, the easier it is to change how you look at things.

I really think Sarah is talking sense.

Get yourself out of the habit of being the "victim." Otherwise, it will eat you up whole like a hungry boa.

do volunteer work

start noticing more things that are good. use a larger definition of good.

put more emphasis on what is good.

notice things that are not bad.

think about the things you did wrong.

distraction

diversion

purpose

come up with goals

get busy and fulfill the goals

Honestly, this cycle is difficult to get out of when I feel the pain of things that happened 25 years ago just as potently as if they happened today.

It would be nice to fall asleep and never wake up again if this is what I have to look forward to for the rest of my life.