Husband had a stroke

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I've been away for a while, busy with life in general. I wanted to come back and let y'all know my husband had a stroke last week. He's in rehab now and hopefully will be walking again soon. He doesn't have any lasting upper body problems and doesn't have the sagging in his face nor speaking or thinking problems but he has double vision that he's has had since the day after. He is going to be on though and it's been the most terrifying time of my life. Those who know my contact info can reach me on fb. I may check back here for PM from time to time but I'm just too exhausted to do this like argue politics and get into long discussions like I usually do.

A lot has gone on since I've been here last.
My son got married, one of my daughters moved out, our car died and we got an SUV, I got a haircut and a new phone. I've gotten into upcycling clothes and making tatter skirts and dresses in the style of gibbous and making patchwork bell bottom jeans as a hobby, and also ended up working on a cosplay outfit which was originally a Halloween costume for my daughters friend but she decided she wasn't going to the party and I make elaborate costumes to begin with so since I still have it I'm making it much better and more elaborate and will probably sell it on Etsy when I'm done.

That's really all my news, and I'm much better now that I know my husband is going to be OK. He won't be working for at least six months so I'll have to figure something out for income and get the rest of his will money and also find out about getting him disability. I was a total basket case until a couple days ago. I had no idea if he was going to live or die and things looked bad, but he had a sudden improvement thank God. One thing it did teach me is who actually cares about me and who is just an acquaintance. I try to be there for people I consider friends and I listen to them and offer to help and I do what I can for them when they need it,and when I needed somebody to be there for me, only about five or six people cared enough to contact me and ask how he was or if they could do anything or just to let me know they were there for me. Sure, people posted that they were praying for him or that they hoped he would be OK on my fb thread, but only a handful of them actually contacted me. Posting on the thread is the equivalent to saying something when you meet in the grocery store. It's just polite, and it may be sincerely meant, but those who care will contact you to let you know they care and even if they can't help in any way or there is nothing to be done, they can listen and be supportive. A few people offered to pray and asked how he was doing off fb, but there was not one single person I could just lean on during this. My husband is who I lean on and he wasn't there for it. My kids needed me to be strong for them so I couldn't cry on their shoulders, and none of the people I thought were my friends even called or came over to just be there for me , so I went through it alone really. And I won't ever go out of my way for anyone I'm not related to again. Nobody even called me to check on me. I'm not upset with the people who I didn't think I was close to, but the ones I did feel close to who just didn't care enough to call or even send a f*****g PM or text or message are just not on any social media or in my phone contacts anymore. Since they don't care about me, I deleted them all from everything.

So, I'm still around and I hope everybody here is doing OK. If you want my fb, pm me.

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I'm giving it another shot. We will see.
My forum is still there and everyone is welcome to come join as well. There is a private women only subforum there if anyone is interested. Also, there is no CAPTCHA.

The link to the forum is http://www.rightplanet.proboards.com

Sorry to hear that.Good to know he's recovering nicely.What did happen to human decency?At one time you would have been flooded with food from the neighbor's.Even if there were differences in opnions and you may not have been close friends,someone would have brought a casserole or pie,asked if you needed something from the store or if your lawn needed mowing.The world is growing colder if people don't even bring over a plate of food.
Sending you well wishes,I'm too far off to bring you a casserole.

At least he's on the mend.

Sounds like you're pursuing interesting hobbies.

Maybe I'll give you a buzz sometime.

Sorry to hear that, OOM, glad to hear he made a turn for the better. It's a lot of stress to go through though. Stay strong.

https://www.ssa.gov/ssi/text-expedite-ussi.htm

You can get expedited payments if he is still having trouble walking after 3 months.
Which makes sense--some people do manage to walk again a month or two after the
stroke--it is too early to tell.

While everyone knows that the first couple of months are the best chances for stroke recovery, it isn't as well known that he can continue recovery years after having a stroke, provided he is willing to committee to an intense rehabilitation routine to regrow new neural pathways. If possible, he should work on rehab many times a day--in short sessions. And, he need to keep pushing--if what he is doing isn't hard he isn't going to improve. If a physical therapist isn't available, he may be able to do exercises in bed or in a wheelchair to maintain the muscle tone in his legs.

He might consider assembling jigsaw puzzles to help his eyesight.