Online friend stopped playing video games with me

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I feel obsessive by worrying about this as it's only been about a week, but I've had more fun with her than I've had in the past year, in just a single day. So, I met this girl a month ago and every night we would play together for a few hours. For the first three weeks we never really talked to each other. But six days ago, like all of a sudden we just started talking and getting along really well. We played for five hours that night and we were laughing and having so much fun. I was really excited and couldn't wait until the next night to do it again. So the next night comes and I see she is online, but she never got on the game(she always starts playing around a certain time.) I was tired anyways so I just went to bed. I still have my hopes up for the next night. She went on the game this night but she didn't invite me like she always does. This has been happening every night since then. I am really confused now, don't really know what to think or do about it, I'm not that sad yet cause I'm still hoping this is only temporary. It's not like she isn't talking to me either, we have still been texting each other. I kind of want to ask her about it but I don't want to make her feel obligated. She also has some family problems which might be the reason, and I really don't want to ask because of that possibility.

You played an online game with a girl for 5 hours, after spending time talking to her that same day?
Give her some space.

If I were the girl, I'd probably be concerned that you expect me to play that online game for 5 hours all the time now, when I have other things I need to do, other friends to talk to besides you, etc. ...

An example I had to deal with of a friend I felt I had to cut off, and why:

1) She once sent me 17 e-mails in one day. That's just too much. It's overwhelming. It's clingy. It's needy. I didn't answer any of the e-mails. Instead, I called her on the phone and told her that 17 e-mails in one day was more than I could handle, and asked her to please not do it again. My friend then had the nerve to lie to me and claim that she did not send me the 17 e-mails, which was stupid because I had the proof right there in my inbox.

2) I gave my friend another chance, and so we ended up having a phone conversation one Sunday night. I told her I needed to end the phone call soon because I had to get to a restaurant before it closed. She ignored me and kept on talking. I told her politely two more times that I had to go ... and she kept talking and talking, totally not caring that I needed to go eat dinner. Finally, I hung up the phone on her.

3) I gave my friend another chance, but ... finally, I had to block her from my e-mail and phone. She had just kept on abusing my time and had taken advantage of my kindness to her, so it had to end. It was sad, because we got along well.

As for your situation, it's a good sign that she's still texting you. I would say to take it easy ... if you were the last one to contact her, wait to see if she'll contact you, it's her turn now and she probably wants a little space and time to herself ... and meanwhile, spend your time on other interests and with other people.

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so how long should I wait for her to message me, or before messaging her again? sometimes people get mad at me for not talking to them as often as they want me to which kind of confuses me.