My uncle's comments are getting awful...

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Me and my husband just want peace, and it was promised to us when we moved in wiith my uncle... He was suppose to move on with his life and leave the property with us. But two other occassions he moved someone else in with us.... Turned out disaterous and they moved out.

Now, for money reasons, he wants to move two more people with us at the same time in this single-wide trailor!! ! He told me and my husband if we protested or moved out he would sleep in the car (cold outside)! !!

Do we leave anyway?

It sounds like your uncle

1) can't be trusted to keep his word
2) couldn't care less about you and your husband's feelings
3) is using emotional blackmail against you

Are you happy living with him?
It's your decision.

Yes perhaps you and your husband need your own space.

It wouldn't make sense for him to sleep in the car if you move out...if anything there would be more space for him and the constant flow of other people he wants moving in with you guys. Perhaps he'd immaturely sleep in the care a couple nights before he realizes how stupid that is starts sleeping inside again.

Do you and your husband pay any rent/utilities to live with your uncle? If moving isn't an option is it possible you could pay more and then he wouldn't need to cram more people in for financial reasons? Otherwise yeah, moving might be the best option...for one sounds like your uncle is a difficult person to deal with, let alone live with but also if you're in a relationship I imagine you and your husband might like a bit more privacy sometimes without an akward family member always around.

The bills are a struggle because every month he indeed blackmails us into paying most of them.

I might get a job soon where I would have to move soon out of state two months, we might remain gone!! !

Oh, and when we got a car, he first convinced us its cheaper to put it in his name... Then he sold his truck... We basically bought him a car we barely get to use and since his work is so important we end up cancelling doctors appointments, etc...

He sounds like a con man.
He's certainly been taking advantage of you.

In that case I'd just move, if he's blackmailing you....he can see how he does without you or your husband around to blackmail. I was thinking maybe he was like actually just financially struggling and needed more help to pay, but it sounds like he's just being irresponsible squandering away his money/resources and using you and your husband as a means not to have to be responsible for his own bills and things.

And that car thing is B.S, what a crook of an uncle you have. As they say you don't get to choose your family members...

I keep forgetting to mention he works at a used car lot... The car I was talking about he got some of the money we payed for it... And it chronically has problems.

Well he certainly isn't working against the used car salesman stereotype...that is for sure.

Your uncle sounds like a leach. I hope you and your husband can find the means to move.

I hate fb..... My uncle told my family I kicked him out of his house... Being called selfish and other things for not accepting his "girlfriend" and her adult son into our little single wide trailer. For some reason not acceptable for us to move.... I being accused of treating uncle bad.

Your uncle has treated you badly.
Sorry that others in your family are now piling on.
Stay strong, Angnix.

Now hes trying to kiss up to me because theres a vehicle he wants and he wants to use the car as a down payment... He clearly says he wants it but wants us to think it will be "our" vehicle as we pay for it...

His sister warned me about him saying hes very manipulative, ive seen him go from normal to " totally stressed out" when his daughter appears who he often whines to. Then his daughter cusses me out for "causing her father to be like that"

He sounds toxic and people like him do not change. Don't believe a word he says. If you have an opportunity, get out of there and don't look back.

What I'm hoping for is this job, forcing us to move... But i dont know if ill have a vehicle.

But the jobs I usually hope for I dont get

In other threads you have mentioned that this uncle was suicidal and had other mental health issues. And you yourself also have mental health issues. Often the entire family structure of a person with autism is rather toxic; even though not everyone has full blown autism spectrum, they may have "broader autism phenotype" and if they don't, they may have related conditions such as depression and anxiety.

In short, often living with relatives is NOT the best choice for people with autism. It all depends on the relative, and it seems your uncle is not someone you should live with.

At the same time, you have been chronically short of money, and that is going to be true for you if you move out, too. If you don't have frictions with your uncle, you may have frictions with your next landlord or with your neighbors. The popular adage "Wherever you go - there you are!" applies here.

I have seen you get excited about some job you have applied for, several times, but now I see you are starting to recognize that you shouldn't pin too much hope on a job you want. You might be a person who has to settle for a job that is not ideal for you, but that pays the bills. Also, is your husband contributing anything yet, financially? Why can't he bring in some money?

Good luck with this situation; but try not to jump "out of the frying pan and into the fire."