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I try to ignore it, but it seems like I almost always get bullied or discriminated against in some kind of way. I feel isolated and discredited. These people that are doing this can probably turn others against me because they are well-liked. The things people do can be denied. I just don't know what to do about it. There must be some kind of vibe I give off that causes people to want to bully me all the time because it's happened for most of my life. Some days I can ignore it, but I just get tired of it. It seems like when I try different things it they don't work. I feel helpless.

That would be a frustrating situation to be in. Let's look for someone to come along with some good ideas. I'm too tired to be a genius right now.

People are mean theres no doubt about that. My only solution is stand up for yourself! Be a b***h. Be assertive. Act like a boss. This may not change the fact that some people like fighting however. you're probably just a sensitive person that doesnt want to deal with peoples b.s. But this is the way the world is. Just be assertive. Stand up for yourself.

You can do it. And remember the problem isnt alwas you. Its the way society is. So dont let it get to you.

It doesn't mean you're actually do this:

But, when I was a kid, I found that if I thought I was being bullied, scorned, etc., that I would be bullied, scorned, etc.

Sometimes, when I did not think I would be bullied, scorned, etc., the bullying, etc., didn't happen.

Not all the time, though.

I have found that if you give off a vibe that you think somebody will bully you, then you would more likely be bullied. This applies to my experience.

Is this in a workplace environment? I stopped working in offices with other women because I just didn't fit in to that sort of dynamic. I work in a male dominated environment now. I've got a couple of friends who have been through the same thing. It sucks.

I don't know what the solution is.

I don't really know how to stand up for myself. I try different things. Sometimes I try talking to them about it, but the times I tried that they usually deny it. I also feel like they are trying to gaslight me because they would go from being passive aggressive to acting nice. I feel better today, but it's frustrating not knowing how to respond. Not everyone does this to me, but it's something that happens regularly.

Right now it is, but it's happened in other places too. It's usually girls that do this to me, but guys do it sometimes too. I feel like I could deal with someone yelling and calling me horrible names better than this passive aggressive behavior. When someone is passive aggressive they can turn other people against you so you can get mobbed.

I understand it's "easier said than done."

But I believe developing an ideology within yourself that "you will not be bullied"--and, especiallly, "being nice about it," will go a long way towards preventing bullying in the future.

I believe you should develop the notion, in yourself, that you don't deserve to be bullied. I really believe that's the only way it will stop.

It's not that I don't have the motivation to stand up for myself. It's that I don't know how. If I think that something might be worth trying I will do it, even if I don't feel comfortable doing it. It seems like most of the time though if I try to be assertive it will get dismissed or twisted around in some way. I usually just try to ignore the bullies and sometimes it works, but a lot of them are determined. If it doesn't stop I sometimes will let one of the managers or someone know, but I don't want to go to them all the time. When I'm just ostracized it's the easiest for me to deal with because when they ignore me I can just ignore them back.