Is it normal to want to be alone?

Post Reply New Topic

I dont work. I live in a building full of people. I had to say no to someone that was bugging me to hang out with them. He layed a guilt trip about being alone for 2 years due to devorce. I havent been feeling well due to a suicide attempt. He wouldnt take no for an answer so I ended up calling the landlord in order for him to take the hint. It was making me uncomfortable.

Is it normal to want to be alone all the time? I think I deserve my space.

It's not really "abnormal" to want to be alone. Maybe you just need more "alone" time at this point in your life. Maybe use WP and other websites for the times when you don't want to be "absolutely alone."

I think it should be my choice weather or not I want to hang out with someone.

Of course it should be your choice.

I spend much of my time alone, it is easier that way. I don't mind occupying my time reading, watching tv, playing video games or instant messaging/texting friends on my phone. If you aren't lonely than what is the harm?

All my life, I was soooo lonely & now that I'm older & my Asperger make me don't want to go out & be with people, I'm happy being in my apartment with my cat.

I personally love being alone. In my room all day on my tablet and watching YouTube all day. I wish I could keep my door shut to make it even more alone. But can't. Because my dog wouldn't like it because he's a very social dog and loves greeting other people.

No, you are not abnormal to want to be alone most of the time. You are just a solitary, non-social type of person. You will notice I put it as "non-social", rather than anti-social. There is a difference. Anti-social people hate other people. Non-social people prefer being by themselves, but don't hate other people. I am another non-social person. Occasionally I attend family functions, and I do talk to people when running errands, or to neighbors when I am out in the yard without problems, but these situations are by my choice. The rest of the time I am alone by choice. I do have contact with others thru the internet, but again, that is thru my choice. I like being alone. I found out decades ago that being with people too much of the time was too stressful for me, and that I didn't like constant contact. Fortunately, I live alone now. Unfortunately, my elderly father is an extrovert who can't grasp that anyone might actually like being alone, so in spite of my constantly telling him that I like being alone, he is convinced that I am miserable because I am alone. Some things must be endured.

Anyway, enjoy your solitude.

This seems more common among autistics, too.
Maybe you just need some downtime to take a break from the work that interacting with others is.
Some people really don't respect that - and I would view that as their failing rather than yours. Just because they want to hang out all the time, doesn't mean you do. I had the same problem living in a crowded building, neighbours forcing themselves on me all the time. It's not respectful. Everyone needs some private time, and autistics it seems most of all.
I don't think it's strange.

<--- Spends most of his time alone because people drive him crazy. Now that he doesn't need, or have, to hang out with anyone, he's much calmer and doesn't need his anti-psychotic or anxiety pills.

<--- For fun: goes for walks in the park with his ear buds in listening to music, or watch horror movies on his laptop with the occasional beer in tow, or writes fiction. Back in the day, when he was a musician, played his guitars and keyboards a lot and made several recordings in his personal home studio.

It's unusual (not so unusual for an autistic), but there is nothing wrong with it, and there are plenty of people who feel the same way. Don't feel ashamed of it if being alone is beneficial to you. And there's no need to feel bad about it with that guy, it is your choice who you spend time with, and that includes if that is no one at all.

it's normal to want to be alone, but i'm guessing this person was a good friend who was genuinely concerned for how much you want to be alone, especially given your history of suicide. it's fine to want to be alone but too much of being alone coupled with suicide usually isn't too normal, and i'm sure your friend saw that and wanted to help you.