Team up in discussions (ugh)

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What about this utterly irritating habit of nt's to team up in discussions. They seem to feel the need to have the same opinion as someone else. They seem unable to have an opinion and stand for it, 'even' if this means they stand alone. They pat and tap and murmur eachother words of understanding and team up against someone with another opinion. Basically, that is very animal like behavior.

Aspies do it too.

Stick around here for a while,
and you'll see it. They even can
engage in the (much more annoying
in my book) behaviour of ignoring
that which disturbs/annoys them.


I'm surprised that you think there's a
difference, seeing that you HAVE been
here a bit. Surely, you've noticed the
cliques and groupings?

I ride free - beneath it all. Or at least
I like to pretend so.

maybe in your country, but in mine people are against each other all the time. specially my father. if one day a person A tells him something he is against, few days later a person B tells him the thing my father was telling when he was against the person A and he is against again, telling the same what person A was telling before. and i know more people like this.

Well, wether they be Aspergers or NT's: I utterly dislike the behavior.

I've always had this urge to argue with other people. Even if I do share the same opinion as someone, there's this part of me that just HAS to lash out and try to argue with them.

It's just comman human behavior, even for Aspies. We all want to feel like we have allies, you wouldn't want to be around people you had nothing in common with would you?

None of this makes sense to me. "Need" to have the same opinion? is there a difference from having the same opinion already, and how exactly can you tell? Disagreeing with someone that has a differing opinion? How is that odd, or "animalistic?"

I like having people back me up. Makes me feel like I'm not nuts And it seems like having similar opinions on things (and interests) would make for good friendships.

I don't mind having everyone against me.
I just hate being ignored.
people learn that that's all
that works though.

I don't need people to 'back me up' in my opinion. It's nice if someone says something kind about my opinion, but I don't like it when people do that in order to express that they are against someone else's opinion.

I don't mind if 'teams' develop because of the fact that people in that team have the same opinion. But I don't like it when a team starts acting as a team to become personal. When a 'team'drifts away from what the discussion really is about towards pointing at someone who thinks different, I don't want to be in that team anymore. I don't want to be in a mob.

It's not because of discussions on this forum that I start about it. I have been in several discussions online these days and I feel that (mostly NT's really) constantly feel the need to encourage eachother in a negative way towards the one(s) that is 'on the other side'. The don't do that by being brilliant in fact, but by being sarcastic and even plain mean.

PS: I don't want to start a thread full with NT-bashing. I usually don't feel bad about NT's. Just the last days I feel NT's have been trying to 'break me' in discussions by doing this teaming up and feel that they are always right, even if facts prove they are not. The fact that they agree with eachother makes them feel they are right, even if facts prove they are not. When it comes to the point that they have to agree that they see things wrong, they start tapping eachother on the back and keep telling eachother they are right and start bashing me for being annoying and such.

Sounds like experiences I've had on some other forums.