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brown_alien_bear
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28 Jul 2017, 9:30 am

I have just graduated from college.
Throughout the four years in college, I have always been nice and helpful to people in my major.
I consider these people my friends; however, I'm not sure about their opinions of me.
Whenever the people in my major get together to hang out, I'm always the one who is left out.
After graduation, the people in my major arranged a reunion. However, I was again not invited.
I find this to be quite rude since everyone I know is invited except me.
I've come to a realization that maybe nobody in my major really considers me as a FRIEND.
How should I deal with this feeling and cope with the potential that I really have no friends?



sly279
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28 Jul 2017, 5:01 pm

Sorry it's happening to you too. I have no friends anymore. People at work don't seem to like me either. I'm not sure how to cope about it. In my opinion humans aren't meant to be alone,so it's negative to our mental health



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30 Jul 2017, 12:29 pm

brown_alien_bear wrote:
I have just graduated from college.
Throughout the four years in college, I have always been nice and helpful to people in my major.
I consider these people my friends; however, I'm not sure about their opinions of me.
Whenever the people in my major get together to hang out, I'm always the one who is left out.
After graduation, the people in my major arranged a reunion. However, I was again not invited.
I find this to be quite rude since everyone I know is invited except me.
I've come to a realization that maybe nobody in my major really considers me as a FRIEND.
How should I deal with this feeling and cope with the potential that I really have no friends?


Accept the fact that these people are not really interested in you, say to yourself: those weren't the right people for me, and while I'm disappointed now, I will be fine eventually.

The next step would be to meet new people in other places. I wish you good luck!



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30 Jul 2017, 8:47 pm

go on Meetup.com

make new friends

go to counseling