Increasingly tired of living at home feel like I cant escape

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I am 20 and getting really sick of my mom telling me what to do. I just want to live alone. I feel like I can't be myself around her. When I have the house to myself I act a lot differently. I constantly think about just walking out one day and never coming back. But when I really think about it, I feel like I am stuck here forever. There is no way I could survive if I got kicked out right now. I go to school but I have never had a job. Part of it is because I don't know how to find one where I can just work alone most of the time. I really don't want to work in a position that deals with customers. I don't even know how I am supposed to get enough money to move out these days. Even apartments are so expensive these days and I don't know how anyone my age is supposed to do it without a loan. I have no idea what insurance is really or how to get it. All I know is that I am covered by my parents. I am afraid that business people will prey on me and make me pay all kinds of ridiculous fees that I don't legally have to pay, and nobody is there to tell me which ones I have to pay. I have no friends or family so I can't go live with anybody. The only person I care about is my girlfriend but she lives in a different state now. We are both having the same problem really. We just want to live together but there is no realistic way to do it as of now. I have no problem at all moving to anywhere else in the country. I don't know where I can get serious help about this. I even met some people online who had the same problem but they didn't give me much advice.

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I meant to reply to this earlier but am having even more issues relating to people at the moment.
I completely agree. This is part of the reason I am nomadic. It completely rejects this model of control. This sort of thing keeps younger people dependent on their parents instead of having any kind of personal freedom - because you can't afford it. Even if you don't get along with your relatives, you have no choice.
I have been in much the same position in the past, and am at the moment again after my last flat folded. At the moment I can never be alone, never be able to be myself, can't even wear what I want or take up interests I'd like because relatives are around watching / commenting / judging, and because mine literally spy on me, they record my activities in a notebook they keep on me.
There is no way I can afford another flat and anyway, there's no point going back to the city just to be spied on by neighbours and social welfare organizations instead of relatives.
My solution is saving up for a completely outfitted, independently off-grid campervan. That negates the need for extortionately priced accommodations / housing, and also largely the need for pricey, settled electricity / power. It doubles as independent transport, too, so you can go anywhere you want, whenever you want, and always have a way to get there and somewhere safe to stay. You're free, you're not dependent on settled structures to cover you. You have everything you need. You can also charge your power through hooking it up to the battery. If you need facilities, you can use pool, gym, or siding / rest area and truckstop facilities.
If the road life isn't for you (I love it) there is also volunteering. Many rural volunteering opportunities are harvest, and they put up their workers. You'll also get paid. Not much, but it's something if you're unskilled. You will usually have shelter and food provided for a few hours work. There should be harvest, farm and food work year round depending on the crops. As workers there are often harder to get since everyone wants to stick close to the cities, they are often more accommodating if you're different.
Fringe society seems the only option for the penniless autistic, but that's not always a bad thing. To me, it sure as hell beats staying in relatives' houses being spied on and wasting your life never having enough money to do absolutely anything.
Just an idea.