Nobody wants to deal with me anymore, not even my parents

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I don't know if I will handle going to school after all. I'm a burden to my parents and even my mom is beginning to scare me by yelling or being frustrated with me. She threatened to cancel my college courses a few minutes ago before it begins. I'm tired of letting my own parents down and failing them. I can never make them happy because I care about nobody else's feelings but my own. What use am I? All I ever do is complain about my personal things to them. I feel like there is no escape left after them and me dealing with it for the last 10-15 years. The other thing is that I still live with them and have no job skills yet. I feel that even God (if it exists and is like most religious people describe him) has left me to suffer and I can't do anything about it or give any criticism because he is God. I feel like I am disobeying my mom by saying this stuff online (when it comes up, mom says that I shouldn't post rants to online places).

I don't feel like I can say anything that isn't least bit negative to them anymore, no matter what it is. Even my sister (whom we weren't very socially close growing up) only sees the side of me that is a total piece of s***. I feel like I scared my parents off or made them angry over the years. It isn't necessarily always like this.

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The point about God leaving me to suffer in the above paragraph is because I am single, jobless, worthless, no driving skill, or own place. I just want to achieve all these soon, and my patience is getting very thin. I am especially crippled about the singleness part. I don't think I can make and keep a date or relationship. I feel like all I ever did was grow up having religious people only tell me "Jesus said that we will not be married, together as man and woman, or having sex in Heaven" and a lot of other things to a similar effect, based usually on a certain Bible verse. If that is true (and I think it's the most likely scenario), I would rather avoid Heaven and God together. This is why I always panic at the next "doomsday" as if time is running out for me to be the guy I always wanted to be and achieve in this world. To think about it, I don't like the biblical/religious view of Heaven at all. I want to be able to struggle as I do here. I'm not saying that my life isn't suffering right now on this planet, and I don't expect life to be absolutely perfect without pain. But what suffering goes on down here right now is senseless. But alas, even the non-biblical/spiritualist views of the afterlife sound gnostic/non-material. So I have pretty much lost hope in all the universe including spirituality.

You, my friend, are in the clutches of circular repetitious obsession.
I get this a lot. You proverbially navel gaze so hard you end up turning inside out. The same handful of personal issues just cycle over and over and over. For years. You for example mention the being single, the religious issues, and over-saturating people with your problems often.
The worst thing you can do for this behaviour in my opinion is repeat it all over again, and keep repeating it. You have to break out of the obsession. Usually, for me at least this takes a few different paths -
1. Identify what the issues you obsess about are, and create a structured plan to start addressing them, however small a step you could take. Then at least you are doing something about them, not just repeating them endlessly and still taking no action. You're at least a small step closer to resolving the issue that torments you so you won't have to think about it anymore. Even if it ultimately fails, that's ok. It's something. Have you tried signing up to an online dating site for example, and trying to find partners that way? Or actively seek them out in mutual interests?
2. When I catch myself starting with the obsessing, I deliberately stop it, and very deliberately instead focus on something else. This works best with autistics if it is an interest, I find. If you find yourself beginning to dwell on one of your obsession topics (unless you're directly working on remedying it) mark that you are, and then deliberately switch to something else. Don't indulge the obsessive thinking.
Otherwise, maybe if you need to talk this out, you could do so in a more acceptable place - counseling? They are there to listen to people rant, and they may be able to help you with the obsessive thinking.
I find that changing the way you think and the way you are responsible for your own thoughts is the best way out of this. That and practically, pragmatically working to solve your issues in real time.