I just can't forget about her.

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Hi all. I don't usually use emotional support forums, because I like to pretend that I'm an internet tough guy ... but now I've reached my limit.

Last night, I had a ton of very weird dreams. For example, I dreamed that I was trapped in a small room, and a monster with blades for fingers was trying to get in.

When I woke up, I couldn't stop thinking about my ex-girlfriend. I miss her.

I'm not looking for a new girlfriend. I don't think that I'm good enough. I'd probably just disappoint her. That's why my old GF left me. She said that I didn't please her in bed. My best just wasn't good enough.

I've been trying to live a volcel (voluntarily celibate) life, but it's hard. Memories keep coming back. Temptations are everywhere.

Hello
As far as the dream goes, my mum explained to me once that to interpret a dream you need to think about how you felt during your dream. That feeling is what your dream is about, the subject matter or story is irrelevant. I've found this really helps, mine are almost always anxiety and then I think about what in my life is causing me to feel particularly anxious at that time.

The sex thing depends on whether your ex was autistic. If she was then OK but it only means the sex between the two of you wasn't right for her, it doesn't mean you won't be the right lover for someone else. That stuff about pressing all the right buttons is ridiculous we're not machines, we don't have buttons, one woman's James Bond is another woman's useless twat.

If she's NT then I'm fairly sure that in NT world women only say that to cause offence. None of the NT females I know would say that, particularly when they were braking up with someone no matter how true it was.

there’s more to a love relationship than “ability in the bedroom.”

Don’t give up. Most women don’t care about “bedroom” ability as much as we Social Darwinist guys think.

I hope you find someone who isnt shallow enough to value “bedroom” ability over anything else.

I’ve known women with lots of “ability”—yet I still didn’t get satisfaction from them because they were not good people outside the bedroom.

If you two really dig each other thoroughly, the bedroom stuff will usually take care of itself.

In a similar situation as far as weird dreams go and the ending of a relationship. Just this morning woke from them again. The feelings of not been good enough, these are not healthy. I won't give details, my situation was complicated but it was my irrational feelings of inadequacy that caused my relationship to end. If I had not had those, we would be in a happy place right now. I have learnt my worth, and also my faults and my major fault was feeling like I was good enough.

Her comments about the bedroom were cruel, intentionally so. Do not dwell on them, she put you down, why be like her to yourself and put yourself down? Pull your self up. And the bedroom is not the be all and end all in a relationship. I can be clunky and clumsy as hell in bed, but when your with someone you love, when you jive, when you gel, that department works it's self out.