Here's one way to deal with stress as an Aspie

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Whatever is stressing you out, whether it's dating problems/ a bad boss/ people playing fake friendship games with you/ the stupid noisy neighbors, do this. Take a block of wood and beat it with a bat, club, pipe or whatever (I use my 7-iron) in whatever private place you can find and pretend that it's whatever is stressing you out. If you don't have wood then beat up a pillow or a couch cushion and pretend that it's whatever is stressing you out. My personal favorite was when I was younger was to pretend that a coffee can was a teacher I hated at school and I threw that can onto the roof of our garage and watch it roll back down onto the driveway. When we went to hit a bucket of balls at the golf course (it was cheap here back then when I was a teenager) I used to pretend that a golf ball was a hiring manager that wouldn't give me a job (I even imagined him/her telling me this with a stupid voice) and I'd smack that ball as hard as I could and pretended that it was that stupid retail/store manager telling me off that was sailing through the air. I've even done this to a couple of electronics I have owned - I remember my GTA4 game being such a pain to complete (the game was a buggy mess) and after I finished the game I took the disk and case to the back and played golf with it. There wasn't much left after the first swing but that felt good to do! (I've smashed up other stuff but won't bore you with the details here.)

My point is that taking your frustration out on something physical (don't do this to a person or something of value, BTW) helps release some of that pent up stress especially if it's something serious. Try it sometime.

When I get really stressed, frustrated or feel I'm heading for a meltdown I try to hold things in until I can get to my bedroom. There is nothing breakable in my bedroom and I can wildly punch and throw pillows about as much as I need to. I can also bury myself under the quilt and scream though I think perhaps my neighbours can still hear me. I probably don't seem much like a 53 year old woman who has a very responsible job when I do these things but it's probably rather better for me than throwing breakable objects, punching walls or banging my head against things as I used to do.