I feel like a little girl

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I have a neighbour in the building that I live. Ive been meaning to hang out with him but every time he comes home from work around 3, I put off doing it. As we know, socializing is hard because of autism. So theres that factor. I just feel uncomfortable around him. I feel like that around most people. But strangely would feel more comfortable around the guy who used to abuse me. It just feels like he won't understand the autism thing. Like how hard it is to socialize and do other things as well. Im terrified to bang on his door and ask to hang out. I wonder if this is me not wanting to come out of my comfort zone, or am I generaly uncomfortable around him. It just feels easier to be alone, but isnt that unhealthy?

My options are quite limited because its hard for me to meet people and socialize. I keep thinking how much it sucks that Im not having much luck with plenty of fish, but here I have a perfectly good person to hang out with, its just Im afraid. Very very afraid of breaking the ice.

Help!

I kind of like my own space but Im wondering if its wrong to be alone all the time.

No, it's not wrong to be on your own all the time if that makes you happy. Try to work out how much time with others would suit you, if none then don't put yourself through it. You might find the company of other people is better sometimes than being always on your own, and for that you will probably have to push yourself a bit over your nervousness. It's getting the balance right for you.

Well the thing about this guy is I was around him before and he wanted to hang out ALL the time. Actually when I didnt want to hang out with him he wasnt taking no for an answer and so I called the landlord to to have a talk with him.

We havent hung out ever since. So Im afraid he wont respect my comfort zone again. But now that Ive got the landlord involved he might be more understanding. Im not sure...

I think you should consider that he won't want to hang out with you again since you called the landlord on him last time. That is a big thing and would probably have made him very wary of going anywhere near you.

I doubt he would care since the landlord is so cool. I could just appologize and say I needed to be alone for a while.

The main issue Im having is not wanting to go out of my comfort zone.

I have this fear that trying to socialize will be too much for me and Ill go crazy.