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30 May 2018, 6:10 pm

I just have no one else to talk to
No interest in talking with my mother, my brothers not so much - except for the little one, but I sometimes sense he has no real interest in talking to me so it's getting frustrating
I just end up feeling stuck and unmoving after talking to him, yet I have no one else to talk to

I sense he's keeping me in a way I do not want to be regarding my personality
I am a scapegoat in the family, hated by everyone for whatever reasons they can have pop in their heads

My father micro-manages me with advice and it's extremely unhealthy for me. Yet I just have no one to talk to, I am becoming increasingly stressed and I am already stressed enough



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30 May 2018, 9:10 pm

That's too bad. Don't you get out of the house sometimes?


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31 May 2018, 12:22 pm

Maybe talking to a therapist would help.



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31 May 2018, 5:55 pm

BeaArthur wrote:
That's too bad. Don't you get out of the house sometimes?


I have nowhere to do. I hardly have any friends anymore
I had a traumatic events which has caused me severe stress overtime. There was the first blow after the event, but things have gotten severely worse overtime
It has severely impacted my relationships, and now I have no one



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31 May 2018, 5:58 pm

I'm not sure what kind of trauma you had, but you need some kind of rehabilitation program. Maybe your doctor could refer you to an occupational therapist who could structure something for you.

All of us sometimes have a situation we can't handle entirely on our own, so I hope you won't feel bad about asking for help. Any one of us could be in your same situation.


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31 May 2018, 6:41 pm

BeaArthur wrote:
I'm not sure what kind of trauma you had, but you need some kind of rehabilitation program. Maybe your doctor could refer you to an occupational therapist who could structure something for you.

All of us sometimes have a situation we can't handle entirely on our own, so I hope you won't feel bad about asking for help. Any one of us could be in your same situation.


No, our experiences in life are unique
I am working on seeing a therapist, and hopefully be able to use other means to get back on my feet



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01 Jun 2018, 11:16 am

I am getting really anxious, irritated and angry with his micromanagement over bizzarely small matters to a point I just want to scream!



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01 Jun 2018, 3:45 pm

Can you tell us what the traumatic event was?

Sometimes dealing with a close family member can drive me up the wall, too. I sympathize.


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01 Jun 2018, 4:23 pm

BeaArthur wrote:
Can you tell us what the traumatic event was?

Sometimes dealing with a close family member can drive me up the wall, too. I sympathize.


Thanks for your sympathy.
The traumatic event was a romantic interest I opened up to. I am left severely scarred and wounded until this day, and the wounds have not healed as it seems - it has been draining the life out of me, highly unfortunately
It's been very hard for me. The event has been a catastrophe



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01 Jun 2018, 5:51 pm

I really think therapy would help you. This kind of event can be brutal. Is it possible for you to go to therapy?


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01 Jun 2018, 9:14 pm

BeaArthur wrote:
I really think therapy would help you. This kind of event can be brutal. Is it possible for you to go to therapy?


Yes, I hope it will actually work



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01 Jun 2018, 10:43 pm

Well, best of luck to you!


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