My family can suck, a lot.

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I am not talking about everyone in it but, there certainly are some pretty crappy people. The middle of the night on thanksgiving before I was about to go to bed I saw a disturbing post on facebook. Well my dad has been staying out in Minnsota where relatives on his side of the family live. I am in Colorado and he doesn't really have a phone uses his sister's phone to call me sometimes. Anyway I found out My grandpa tried to tell my aunt to tell my dad he couldn't go to thanksgiving there. My cousin, the son of one of the aunts didn't want my dad there and my grandpa was going along with it. My aunts said no, and the one who posted angrily left after her son tried to force her to leave after standing up to them.

Still trying to figure out how I feel about that...it makes me angry. I hope I hear from my dad before too long though last time I heard from him was Halloween he left a messege but when I called back my aunt answered, he was using her phone but then had to go so I wasn't able to talk to him. But yeah just hope to hear back from him that he's doing ok after what must have been a pretty sh*tty thanksgiving. Just sucks because there's not anything I can do about it.

Also, my little brother may be upset he hasn't heard from my dad in quite a while. He sent our dad a letter with some photos of himself, my mom said my brother never got anything back from our dad. So now, I am concerned that mean cousin may have checked the mail, saw something for my dad and just threw it away. Which would mean he never received the letter my brother sent. He's an abusive person and seems he's targeted his own mom(my aunt) and my dad for some reason, so it really would not surprise me at all.

So yes that is on my mind.

Sorry to hear that. You’ve mentioned your dad before and I know you care for him and worry about him.

Goddamn soap opera families!

Can't people just get a life????

I'm glad that at least you're not the target of all this. I've been alienated enough by most of my family that I only do the holidays thing to see people. No one's outright told me I can't go somewhere but that's been my impression for a number of reasons, first being I am the least educated & most technical. I don't mind talking to family 1:1 but the semi-apparent disapproval of my mom's entire side is basically enough that I'd prefer to avoid everyone out of sheer bewilderment. I do appreciate the idea of a gift giving holiday but until this year I've been too poor to really get much of anything. That I'll have to figure out again.

tl;dr My family also sucks at times. I hope it all blows over.

My extended family on my mom's side quit getting together for holidays party cuz of family drama. I got dragged into it a few years ago & I would only see my extended family twice a year when I went down to Louisiana. I got accused of saying that my mom said my grandma is a burden. I would NEVER say that about her & I wasn't even around & don't call anyone but my parents so when the f#ck would I have said that. My aunt & cousin were trying to start drama. My aunt likely has Histrionic Personality Disorder & she got upset because me & mom were doing lots of stuff for my grandma to help out with things before I moved away. My aunt had to step up alittle after I moved(partly cuz my mom has health issues & cant do as much either) & my aunt was mad that she didn't look like the favorite & she couldn't get my mom to help her with stuff either like my mom used to.

Ditto. Most of my family is heavily involved in the soap opera lifestyle. I understand you care about your dad. For me, I pretty much had to disengage cause it was killing me.

I hope you find out your dad and other family you care about are ok.