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I'm not coping with life! I'm not coping with change, I feel like crap all the time and I'm like a sinking ship. I'm crying here! I don't know what to do or who to turn to or trust! My life is pointless, I'm worthless, nothing but a piece of garbage.

hey. is there a specific person that emm, happens to be around, when that feeling occurs?
alternatively, what serious issues are happening to make u feel like that?
another alternatively, u might be experiencing a chemical disbalance commonly known as depression. ur neuromediators do not get produced or delivered as should.
in either case, please, please hold on. everything can be solved. every night meets a dawn. even a polar one.
u cannot be worthless, u cannot be meaningless, u are a world before u are a (wo)man.
stay with us!

Due to racism, sexism, homophobic, classism, fatophobia, some peoples lives are harder to cope with

Maybe you are doing your best

Autistics tend to be bad at dealing with change

You can't measure your retail value.

A symptom of clinical depression is "feelings of worthlessness, meaningless, guilt"

But even the exchange rate of monetary currency fluctuates every day.

You can't measure your retail value




Your estimate of your retail value is either too low, equal, or too high



Plenty of precious lil "people" act like they truly believe that they are the latest greatest thing since sliced bread.






Even if Einstein, Edison, Galileo, were not to have existed, someone else would have made that invention

If nobody else made the invention, the species would not have gone extinctif the species went extinct, so what? Then what?




Precious lil "people" that act like they are so f*****g "important". Have confidence not proportional to competence

Isadora, please hang on. You are not worthless no matter how you are feeling. Many of us here have also felt worthless and hopeless. Can you tell us a bit more about yourself?

And welcome to Wrong Planet.

I'm calmer now. My breathing is easier now and I feel less stressed. My therapist is coming to see me this morning, she's all I have, I've got nobody else.

I'm sorry for upsetting you and saying those awful things. I got in a bad way last night, but feeling much happier today.
There's not a lot to tell tbh. I've got my child and that's about it. I grew up in a care home so no family or friends, just me. No one has wanted to be my friend before. I like taking scenic walks, they make me feel relaxed.

when u feel like that, trying to get help is only good idea. many of us do need it from time to time. please dont be "sorry" for being depressed, ur situation really is serious, u have every right to be afraid, lonely and depressed. and u are very welcome to ask for help as many times as u need. this is what haven is for. the fact that other people do have problems, do not diminish urs, and ur need for support. we need to stick togather.
i also have a child, who i struggle with raising. and i am not the only one. quite a few people here can relate to u this or that way, can understand at least some part of what u feel. sharing makes it easier. please dont keep it all in urself.

You have a child too? It's hard work isn't it, and the crying makes my head spin. How do you cope? I am finding it so hard at the moment. Lots going through my head! I've never been very good at sharing feelings, mostly because I don't do much talking and don't have anyone to talk too. Yesterday I was so frightened, I felt like my whole world was falling apart. My therapist is concerned but I think I convinced her I'm ok, she's so suspicious all the time. I think she wants to send me back to the home. But that's why I'm trying to be so good, I don't want to go back there again. Nobody understood me.

I will try to keep opening up. I'm glad you understand serpentari. You're the first person to really understand me.

That’s a mighty cool therapist who comes to see you, rather than you coming to see the therapist.

I wish I had a kid. I admire people who have raised kids. It’s a hard job.

I might be able to handle it at age 58. Highly questionable if I could have handled it at 21.

i will not claim full understanding. nobody can fully, trully and totally understand another person. i do relate to some moments i saw so far. i can suggest, that u were not treated well. i see sighns of trauma simmilar to mine. fooling therapist also been there done that.
how do i cope with yelling? i dont. it causes me to meltdown if not stopped very fast. my daughter goes to kindersgarten now, and that is only thing that saves me. still pretty often messing up. i dont do a lot of things an ideal mother should. i do some thigns an ideal mother should not. (such as spanking my daughter for misbehaving). i feel like being at war with the world. and if other people did not tend to my wounds on a daily basis, i would not have survived this long. i have somewhat of family, but they stress me out more often than otherwise. and more often than not i refuse to communicate with them, knowing they would only take meager crumbs of energy i have. they dont care to see my state and only want to tell me what they think i should be doing. that taught me better than trying to tell anybody about my feelings a long time ago. untill somebody taught me otherwise. recently. so i prefectly get that part, too. it will take time, and u go with ur own pace. as u can.
how old is ur child now? what are hardest issues for this moment, exept the loud sound? what do u feel towards the child when they are not yelling?

I'm sorry you have meltdown, that happens to me all the time at the moment. I've always got a sense of dread hanging over me like a great big unfriendly shadow! You have it pretty hard, I can tell but the love for your child comes across loud and clear. You sound like a great mum. I'm sorry your family are like that with you, that must be hard for you, I doubt I could cope with that. It's horrible to always have people on your back. My baby is still very young, he's a handful but I love him to bits. I'm struggling with him but I am coping. It's been hard to grow attached to him but I think that's getting easier now.
Other than the loud cries I find dealing with his toiletries difficult and feeding him because he just spits everything back out. I feel like I'm doing everything wrong, I don't want to let him down.

Yes she's really lovely and always comes to see me.

I hope you don't become a daddy. You're clearly a very loving and good natured person.

I couldn't have coped with a 0-6 month old on my own, after that it becomes a lot easier, my daughter was no trouble at all but all kids are different.

please tell me the exact age of the child, and the menu. in according to simply needing to learn to eat, there can be issues that might be adressed to make the issue less. i am in a convenient position here, having gone thru that period recently enough to remember. if u dont feel comfortable issuing information out in the open, we can use private line here, or get u on my dischord. tho, then other mothers with different (and maybe more suitable to ur case, than mine) experience would not be able to join up. choice is urs.
toilet stuff is only something we have to get used to while they are small. there was a period in my daughter's life when i had to... welll... help her cope with that basic stuff. it happens often to small babies.

I hope I do become a daddy some day. It's not likely to happen, though.

When I have trouble coping, I watch YouTube. There's so much good stuff of many varieties on YouTube.