I am terrified of STDs

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My ex gf of two years turned out to be an extreme case of nymphomania, and she was f*****g random guys left and right, for those who didn’t see my thread in L&D, a two words brief: it’s her roommate who exposed her cheating to me.

I am so terrified that i may caught a STD, how long a STD’s first symtom appears? Last sex with her was on last saturday of december, and last saturday we made out only.

I am also so socially ashamed of all this, i can’t tell any family of my concerns. And if I have anything, what i will tell them? that my ex was a total serial cheater?

I will try to do the blood tests this week if given the chance from work. I am so terrified now.

any tips may be great on first signs for those who experienced such.

I know that if you were to get HIV you would have no symptoms at all. I would go get tested if I were you.

Google will probably give you the most up to date info (reliable sites). I was married to a male version who brought home a variety of STDs, thankfully all curable. I would think discomfort, burning etc., when urinating would be an early sign or a discharge. If you can get tested soon good.

So sorry this happened to you, how did you discover? how did you cope?

and what stds he transferred to you?

No signs or symptoms of anything is good at least.

But some never even show symptoms in some people.

Best to just get a full STI test done for everything. It's all pretty straight forward stuff. Blood, urine, throat swab, possibly rectal swab.

Check which HIV test they use and what the "window period," is. They use a couple different ones here. One is nearly 100% accurate after I think 4 weeks, so if that's the period for the one they use you may want to wait a few more days just to make sure you've captured your last sexual encounter with her in the test.

Also, FYI it's entirely normal to feel anxious about STI (new name here for STD) testing. I remember how nervous I was the first time - back 6 years ago when I was quite sick with an unknown illness & had ruled out so many things then I was terrified of HIV despite being careful. Totally normal to be nervous, but, in Most cases, things turn out for the best and there's absolutely nothing to worry about.

Now it's such a routine thing for me (every 3 months) that I don't sweat it at all & never have had any serious concern despite the fact that I'm a way bigger slut than you. Mind you, I take generic Truvada every day & so it's pretty much impossible for me to contract HIV soooooo I don't have that big worry each time I'm tested. There've only been a couple cases in the world where someone was taking Truvada as PrEP and contracted HIV.

Regardless, getting tested is 100% the responsible thing to do & IF you have any sort of bacterial or viral infection, at least you'll know about it ASAP in order to deal with it ASAP. No matter what the STD (if any, you probably don't have any!) it's always best to catch it as early as possible in order to treat it ASAP vs. the alternative of ignoring the possibility & not knowing.

I got HPV a few years ago. It was scary and I was really depressed about it. Condoms don't protect against HPV, so really the only way to not get it is by being abstinent which sucks.

I'm glad its gone now, but having to burn the lesions off over a period of months with a medicated cream was extremely painful.

Get yourself tested as soon as possible.

Make sure the results are confidential.

Don't tell anybody else about the results----unless you're going to be a person's lover.

Get yourself treated.

I don't find it's shameful to pick up an STD. It's shameful if you don't do anything about it.

Boo, I read this shortly after you posted it. It happened so long ago and I don’t think of it as much anymore. But I did think back on it now and it makes me feel sad and stupid. I was so easily fooled. I don’t know how many women he was with, but I know one was a neighbour. I used to work shift work so at times he would have all evening or night to do whatever. I suspected something was going on. Money was missing from our bank account often too. One day at work I got a phone call at work from my doctors office. They wanted me to come in right away as a test I had just had showed cancer cells. I was working in an open office and didn’t know what to do after the call. I went back to my desk, but after a bit I called my husband and told him. He didn’t come home that night. The night I really needed him. After midnight the neighbours husband called to see if I knew where his wife was as she wasn’t home. We figured it out! I stayed for a year, trying. I had my surgery. Before thirty I lost my chance to have more children. My husbands behaviour got worse. I was ready to kill myself. I didn’t know how to escape. And then I was offered a transfer to another part of the country. It made me believe in miracles. All of the infections he brought home were curable. There was once we were at the (female) doctors office together because of it. I think the doctor took great pleasure at taking a swab, with a long cotton tipped stick, from inside his *****! I think it was not too comfortable.