My life is a joke

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Need to vent.

With this Coronavirus thing going on, my mental state is getting worse, but it was already bad before. 23 no gf, few friends, no employment even before covid, basically no life whatsoever etc. Brought this up on a separate post so you know the story. I've been acting out more and more lately often times either depressed or on verge of a mini breakdown because of how s**t my life is, the despair of doing nothing with your life, so you go out and try to do something, only to be treat weirdly, talked down to by others (because I look younger than my age) WHICH I HATE EVERYONE DOES IT TO ME, and stared at everywhere you go, seeing absolutely everyone with girlfriends and more mates (probably the main issue in my life now). So you go home again so you don't have to deal with that and start acting out more because of the whole 'comparing yourself to others' thing, Doing nothing but walking around your neighborhood, only contacts are your parents and few friends who even before the outbreak I only sometimes see due to them working all the time. The cycle repeats, go out or stay home, doesn't matter, you'll be f****d either way. How can anyone be content with that?

I'm almost having a crisis, and I don't know what to do, some data even feeling suicidal impulses, even if I've got my whole life ahead of me. I don't want to seek help because therapists don't help don't take u seriously and probably pick on your life style instead of helping and make it worse.

Edit: I hate couples, like a lot, really need your help guys.

Stop self-pity first - it doesn't helps. Use your brain instead.
Learn eye contact and to read people. Keep a good mood if doing eye contact!

Well, this thread failed to deliver any laughs. Not much of a joke without a punchline!

I see these “I’m at my wits end,” posts and can’t help but think “Then why don’t you explore and try treatment options?”

They exist. They’re very real. They work. I’ve kept my ASD symptoms pretty balanced and in check for about 8 years now. But it seems others are only interested in ranting.

Is there something constructive you are interested in, that you could focus on during this shutdown? A hobby, a book you've been meaning to read but just couldn't seem to get around to? I know it may seem trivial, but it can help to set short-term, attainable goals during a time of uncertainty.

Yes I got a book on mindfulness but basically passing time, not really much reason to bother with much else. Kinda funny how the book is on mindfulness yet there is nothing to do. And to that too that commenter goldfish, wasn't supposed to be a joke it's just a literal fact; baby steps here to make minor changes in my own life.

Sorry to hear it. Can you not make friends online and get involved with some fun podcasts or chats. Also, WP is a great place to make friends. Maybe start playing a few games in the forums? Do you have any hobbies? If so, post about them maybe and bond over them on here? Sometimes, in order to meet the right people, the kind who are going to get along with you and respect you for who you are, requires a different apporach ... being prepared to put yourself forward a bit more than you might usually do.

Join Facebook groups on shared interests, talk to people there, hopefully find someone in your area with the same interests you can meet... after the pandemic that is. Everyone should be staying at home anyways. In the meantime, video games are a great way to escape a sh***y life. Talking via text can somewhat meet social your social needs while staying home. I've always found meeting people online first before meeting in person easier given my poor social skills and anxiety. At least you can then have more time to think of what to say until your comfortable around the person to just be yourself when you finally meet in person.

Unless you have a job or are going to school its unlikely you'll get a gf regardless of how well your social skills are. Getting in shape can definitely make things easier and boost your confidence, which will make you more attractive. There are plenty of body weight based exercises you can do at home with minimal equipment (maybe a $10 pull up bar). If looking young is an issue,(which for me it is), consider what clothes you wear, hair style, and grow out your facial hair instead of shaving and people will start to treat you like you are closer to your actual age.