How to Cope with All that Anger

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I'm mentally stable but very irritable. I'm very homesick. My PTSD and did keep getting triggered like an avalanche. I also seem to having little social blips with Aspie. How do I keep my anger away from a 10.I have a severe physical illness that's killing em and off and on my anger has been brewing at an 8 or even a 9 a lot lately. I'm often happy but I have a very angry unforgiving undercurrent.

When I was younger I'd blow up at people sometimes, but only because I didn't know how to cope with or express my feelings (so I've been told). I still don't know how to handle stress but I live alone and have tons of downtime so there is very little to bottle up and explode any more. When I did get mad it was unexpected and even caught me off guard and I felt really bad afterwards. Swearing only (not physical) and telling it like it is with very little held back. I've never thrown anything in my life.
An example of how it is with me: Last summer I was alone and it felt like my brain was on fire (seriously) and I had no idea why. I had to analyse it and started laughing because I realized I was mad because of some idiot I was on the phone with a little while earlier. My brain and emotions are two seperate things. Up side is I'm quick to be happy too.

Thanks for your feedback

For me there's all the stress of work and home and then add in the hormones and kaboom! I really need to put it on my calendar rather than explaining my rage in retrospect. Regardless of trigger, to cope: check in frequently --- if the answer is "I'm a little agitated but can handle this" that means --- take a break! (since you've been pushing through until explosion). Proactively schedule breaks and self-care, have your fidget toys in all your coat pockets and favorite places to sit. If you are the hypersensitive type start have your accommodations on hand. Today my stress was building, building, building and then I was like: oh, my earplugs! Reducing the dB chilled me out - fast! So simple and yet if I hadn't had them on hand, I wouldn't have remembered that option and was within 2 min of a meltdown. Yesterday I forgot that I had my sunglasses on and wore them in the house all day... and of course I was more relaxed (less explosive). Why don't I do that more? Because "normal" people don't wear sunglasses inside, why should I, I'm normal enough. But if in reality wearing sunglasses keeps me five more steps away from explosive, shouldn't I? I keep thinking I need to "handle it" (control myself) or whatever that means. Warning (some bitterness:) Screw that - make accommodations.