jimmy m wrote:
I am lost. Jacksonville, which state? Abbie who? Are we talking about the newspaper column "Dear Abbie"?
Had to search and found the following link.
[url=https://wrongplanet.net/forums/viewtopic.php?t=374899]Concerned About My Special Interest[/url]
So Abbie is Abigail Lorraine Maass. She lives in Jacksonville, Florida. She is the girl in FatheringAutism YouTube channel. She is around 15 years old. For some reason, you have captured her as an obsession. Maybe you identified with her and her struggles and find comfort in watching her develop.
As Aspies we can develop strange obsessions. Sometimes they may not make much sense at all to someone on the outside. But they are obsessions never-the-less.
You said: And I recently had an autism evaluation and two things came out of it 1) I am severely autistic and 2) I have the developmental capacity of a five year old. Talk about a shocker, I’m more autistic than everyone ever thought I was and I have the mental capacity of less than Abbie’s physical age thus I am one smart five year old apparently. Hell, the five year old bit has even snuck into my “branding” such as this tag line “The new and improved Carly Grace Fleischmann, now more carefree in version 5.0”. And “and remember: this five year old loves you”
Hmmmm. Even though I am 71 years old, deep down inside I am still a 5 year old. If you look at my avatar, that is the real me. So speaking one 5 year old to another, I should be able to offer some help and advise. But I do not know if I can help.
In reality, this obsession can be an obsession that could become a problem especially if you acted upon it. So don't go to Jacksonville except in your dreams.
Over the years I have had many obsessions. Too many to count. I once decided to make the sharpest pencil in the world. I was upset with dull pencil tips and decided to change the pencil. I spent days sharpening the pencil using various grits of sandpaper, until the tip was many times finer than the sharpest needle. I would look at it through a magnifying glass. Perhaps the solution is developing more obsessions. Obsessions can undergo transference. The more obsessions you have the better you are able to transfer away from an obsession that can get you into trouble.
So your loss of your iPhone prevented you from pursuing your obsession. That triggered a great degree of stress. That stress is throwing you into distress.
O.K. From one 5-year old to another, I have 3 suggestions:
1) The stress from the loss of your iPhone is stored inside you and it needs venting. I suspect you would like to scream. So the first thing that you need to to is scream it all out. Find someplace where you can scream at the top of you lungs without disturbing anyone and just scream it all out. There are many ways to do this kraftiekortie goes down in the subway station and when a train passes by, he howls like a wolf at the passing trains.
2) Watch the movie "Please Stand By". It has one of my favorite actresses Dakota Fanning. She plays an autistic girl who has an obsession on Star Trek. The obsession is not bad and becomes a motivator for her to expand outside her shell and see the world. For her it is a good obsession.
3) Choose another obsession and cultivate it. Pick a good obsession, one that will not get you into trouble. Nurture it like you would a plant. Water it often and let it grow.
It wasn’t an iPhone but rather an iPad. This is part of my communication suite. I identify as nonverbal for numerous of reasons including but in no way limited to past traumatic experiences, it’s physically painful to speak, and many others. I’ve slowly been migrating to being nonverbal since high school.
My original communication suite was as follows:
2 iPad pro 12.9” (3rd Generation) 256 GB Silver Wifi + Cellular (cellular disabled to save money) in an otter box defender case.
Both tablets were in an active/shadow configuration meaning if the active device was lost, stolen, damaged, Or otherwise unavailable it usually takes less then 5 minutes for me to “roll over” to the shadow and I’m back up and running. Both devices were configured exactly the same thus when a role over occurred, there was minimal downtime.
These devices are not just a status symbol, but a core component of how I interact with the outside world. Now that there’s no shadow device I’m hosed if my active configuration goes down
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Thanks:
Ashley B.:
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25 May 2020, 4:18 am
