What if someone had a personal dairy that was being read?

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07 Sep 2020, 5:34 am

What if someone had a personal dairy that was being read?
What if those people were offended by what you had written?
What if you deliberately made controversial comments in that diary for the snoops to read?
Oh, what fun that would be! <sigh> :mrgreen:



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07 Sep 2020, 5:36 am

It would probably be a list of cows tbh


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07 Sep 2020, 7:45 am

I used to write in a diary/journal style for quite some time, and sometimes I’d get really paranoid that one of my family members was reading it (even though I write in dragon-script from the book Dragonology, to try to prevent other people from reading it, I thought they might have taken the book, translated, then put it back). I didn’t try to play with anyone like that (although some of the stuff I wrote would seriously make people think I was lock-her-up-for-life crazy, no joke or exaggeration), but I did write about my suspicions on occasion and a couple of times wrote about what a deep betrayal it would be if someone other than me was reading it.


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07 Sep 2020, 11:38 pm

Pepe wrote:
What if someone had a personal dairy that was being read?

I would think that individual would be quite cheesed off. They might even have a cow over it.



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07 Sep 2020, 11:40 pm

Gosh, I didn’t even notice the word exchange until now. And I call myself an Aspie :roll: (attention to detail)


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08 Sep 2020, 12:03 am

Pepe wrote:
What if someone had a personal dairy that was being read?


I'd be angry and filled with regret at first....but why cry over spilled milk



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08 Sep 2020, 12:09 am

KT67 wrote:
It would probably be a list of cows tbh


I'm semi dyslexic.
Does it show? :mrgreen:



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08 Sep 2020, 12:17 am

When you are being "Gaslighted", you come up with ways to expose what is happening behind your back.

What I described was an actual occurrence, at one point in my life.
I was both laughing my head off,
And in a state of serious, profound anxiety.

The way I figured, if they weren't reading my diary, sorry, I mean dairy, there would not have been a reason for concern.
As it turned out,
Yes, indeed, my diary was being read.
It was incontrovertible, based on the reactions around me.
So much for Trust. 8)



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08 Sep 2020, 1:30 am

Pepe wrote:
What if someone had a personal dairy that was being read?
What if those people were offended by what you had written?
What if you deliberately made controversial comments in that diary for the snoops to read?
Oh, what fun that would be! <sigh> :mrgreen:


All this has happened to people you asked about. Narcissists will also put things in their diaries like "it pains me when I have to punish my kid like this" for their kid to read.

Don't forget Harriet the Spy when Marion found her notebook and read it to everyone, including to her own friends and she became everyone's enemy. Of course her own friends didn't care what she had written about their classmates and Marion's friends until they both saw she had written something about them as well. Then they cared. Even as a 11 year old I knew this was so messed up about her friends. Hypocrites is what I noticed but didn't know the word for it then. My therapist's term for it was "non compliant" when I would describe such behavior in humans.


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08 Sep 2020, 4:51 am

Pepe wrote:
KT67 wrote:
It would probably be a list of cows tbh


I'm semi dyslexic.
Does it show? :mrgreen:


Sorry then.

I have this issue with my mum cos she's dyslexic too. And I tend to point out puns and stuff when I see them, unless I know the person's dyslexic.

Yes if someone's personal diary was being read it would be a problem. I once did it when I was 10 - first diary I came across so I didn't know the protocol. I used to read everything and anything I came across.

It was boring and I still got into trouble with the writer. Don't do it! And if you do do it and get caught don't say 'but it was boring'!

That said mum found my auntie's diary 40 years after she wrote it and now all of us read it and we all read my one from 20 years ago as well. My auntie's one is interesting cos she kept with it and it's like a snapshot of life in the 70s.
I didn't keep up with mine cos I lost it and all it says is 'I kicked Ben cos he made fun of Martin and I like Martin' 8O :lol:


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08 Sep 2020, 5:13 am

My personal dairy being read spawned very serious problems that couldn't get resolved for the next 17 years.
Don't read personal dairies of your children.
Really, don't.


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08 Sep 2020, 9:50 am

I know the feeling. :evil:

There was a point where I became really obsessed with it.
At some point, I became obsessed with making numerous codes and scripts.
But nothing sticks because it's decipherable or too hard.

I had a lot of trust issues since then, no matter how forgiving people are around me.
It never helps that my hearing is strong enough to overhear some conversations. That sometimes people assume I don't pay attention enough.



I've recently found a cipher that is neither decipherable by normal means, nor it's too hard for me.
On top of writing it on hand favored my cognitive preferences...

Went with traditional journaling with it with a real confidence that no one can ever read it.
And gave me my long awaited assurance.


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08 Sep 2020, 10:33 am

If someone read my diary I'd be very upset. It reminds me of Harriet the Spy which is a book about the same topic.



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09 Sep 2020, 3:39 am

I had an ex that did this.....

Weird thing is, keeping a written record of events as they happen, really keeps things in an accurate perspective......

So when someone told me something that sounded odd about a past event, I could look it up and see what really happened.

It's very difficult to gaslight someone who keeps a journal.....


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09 Sep 2020, 3:56 am

that1weirdgrrrl wrote:
I had an ex that did this.....

Weird thing is, keeping a written record of events as they happen, really keeps things in an accurate perspective......

So when someone told me something that sounded odd about a past event, I could look it up and see what really happened.

It's very difficult to gaslight someone who keeps a journal.....


In my case, the gaslighting involved people pretending they didn't read my journal. ;)

BTW,
why the face? 8O



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09 Sep 2020, 4:06 am

KT67 wrote:
Pepe wrote:
KT67 wrote:
It would probably be a list of cows tbh


I'm semi dyslexic.
Does it show? :mrgreen:


Sorry then.

I have this issue with my mum cos she's dyslexic too. And I tend to point out puns and stuff when I see them, unless I know the person's dyslexic.


Yes if someone's personal diary was being read it would be a problem. I once did it when I was 10 - first diary I came across so I didn't know the protocol. I used to read everything and anything I came across.

It was boring and I still got into trouble with the writer. Don't do it! And if you do do it and get caught don't say 'but it was boring'!

That said mum found my auntie's diary 40 years after she wrote it and now all of us read it and we all read my one from 20 years ago as well. My auntie's one is interesting cos she kept with it and it's like a snapshot of life in the 70s.
I didn't keep up with mine cos I lost it and all it says is 'I kicked Ben cos he made fun of Martin and I like Martin' 8O :lol:


Don't worry about it.
I found it funny, really. ;)