"There is no geographic solution."
An old friend said that to me once, and she was right. I thought I'd find a better life in another state, but I didn't. Stay where you grew up. If it's familiar and comforting, and you're getting decent help and services, that's really important.
I used to live in New York and I got career training and a decent job. I was on my way. My parents decided to move us west and I couldn't find a job in my field. I've spent the last 20 years miserable and I've done nothing but struggle. I'm too old to have children of my own and I can't hold a full time job here, in Nevada.
I think the east coast is doing a far better job of helping people with ASD. Any small town will be riddled with all kinds of small-minded stuff that is misery-inducing.