Are You Being Bullied By A Sibling?

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Do your neurotypical siblings pick on you? I think that is what probably drives many people on the spectrum to suicide. I've had it hard but I'm an only child. Sometimes I didn't love it but if I had a sibling who was fine, and especially if that person wasn't nice to me, and if my parents compared me to him or her, I'd surely want to die.

People with ASD are so vulnerable to users, liars, and cheats. Be careful out there.

I'm not sure if any of my siblings are neurotypical.

I've got an older autistic brother who used to be very controlling when we were children and punched me quite often. When we were little he'd decide that I was not allowed to like reading and what films I was and wasn't allowed to like. Once he banged my head into a doorpost because I stopped by the door to look at a film I wasn't supposed to like for a little too long. When I was in my early teens caring at all what clothes I wore or even showering often enough would result in him calling me a disgusting slut. That brother is a completely different person now though.

My arms used to be covered in scratches due to a sister who is probably autistic as well as having some other psychological problem and sometimes there were patches on my head where you could see that some hair was missing because she pulled so much of it out. In my teens I had a few doctor visits because she thought she was justified in trying to scratch my eyes out because I was better at something at school than her. She stopped being physically violent at around age 15. She'd still spend hours a day talking about what a horrible monster I was sometimes every day for weeks or months and demand that other family members agree with her and later on demand that I commit suicide and demand that my mother agrees that I should commit suicide.

My other siblings were nice though and while I'm not sure if they're neurotypical, they're doing better than me and the two siblings I mentioned above.
In my childhood and teens my parents compared me to my older brother because he has a genius IQ and I don't and because he has interests they hold in higher regard - although they didn't do it in a completely overt way and they are probably not aware how obvious it was. They stopped because he failed even worse at transitioning to adulthood than I did.

Never.

If anything else, I'm the 'neglectful' one not the 'neglected'. And it's no one's fault.



My parents knew better than try and compare me to anyone, and I knew better than compare myself the same way.

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No, not really. Certainly not as adults and as children being the oldest makes it hard for your siblings to bully you, at least before they're as big as you.

There's times I think my youngest brother might if he was immature enough to feel it was acceptable. I was enough older to have been really looked up to at some point and we're both old enough to realize that I've never been a particularly good role model.

At times I was a bully towards my middle brother. It's one of the things in life I feel the most guilt over.

I believe my brothers did intentionally provoke my anxiety when I was in high school but what middler schooler hasn't been through an as*hole stage? I notice around that age, kids become selfish and into themselves and don't care about others but themselves and will deliberately do things to provoke because it's their way of protesting. And then they grow out of it.

This is why age is sometimes relevant to a situation because it means "don't take it personally, they will grow out of it and won't be that same person when they are adults so give them another chance and not hold it against them." It would be like my mom holding a grudge against me for something I did when I was 3 and bringing it up still and acting like I am still that person.

kids do sh***y things because it's part of their development and their empathy isn't fully developed yet.

First of all, my siblings are not necessarily neurotypical.
Second, we're living largely separate lives, with neither much conflict nor excessive support.
Our parents were smart enough not to compare their children to each other.