Does being sad make you ugly?

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Mum was looking through her pictures of us from last year (2019).

I was sad in 2019. I hated myself. But I was living a similar life to now.

I don't hate myself anymore & I do the best for myself in terms of mental health.

I was way uglier on those pictures than the ones now. Even though I had access to regular hair cuts.

Without 'I hate grumpy people' replies or comparing two individuals, do you think a specific person is better looking aesthetically when they're happier?

Could just be a reminder of how I was feeling that year.

I think a smile always makes a person better-looking.

It certainly makes me better-looking.

This doesn't mean that when you're sad, you're ugly.

I don't know. But I know you are a nice kind person.

Happy Christmas!

Last edited by Mountain Goat on 24 Dec 2020, 8:17 pm, edited 1 time in total.

I think it's like this.

I was grimacing.

Mum said 'that's just the wind'.

But I was grimacing & in pain in all the pictures. Not physical pain. Mental pain. I had something on my mind and I wasn't smiling and my face was twisted.

Thanks.

Merry Christmas to you too

I think that a person being sad or mad at the moment the picture is taken can sometimes show in the picture. As in, even if one can't say with one glance that this person is mad/sad, there's just something off about them, which doesn't look good.

There's also the option that your self esteem is better now than it was a year ago, so if you thought of yourself as ugly back then, the idea might be stuck in your mind and you can't see the pictures of you from back then as anything beautiful.

Or maybe you do look better this year. Bad hair-day last year? Or one of those famous ugly Christmas sweaters?

My poor Mum has a few photos like that. Mostly from when she was made to spend too long with family and she had enough, but someone wanted a group photo. We have a lot of these photos from over the years.

Some artists think sadness is very beautiful or at least worth capturing, a story worth telling.

You've captured a moment, a time you felt unhappy. You can look back now and see how you've grown.

I dont need to be sad to look ugly. Im so damn UGLY and thats the cause of my sadness. Not the result.

You can't measure aesthetics or emotions

I understand the "art" of looking sad in photos----but it's not "art" that I really like (though, of course, I understand and comprehend it, and wouldn't begrudge somebody liking that sort of thing).

does being sad make you ugly?
or is it, does being ugly make you sad?...

if the question is the latter, i would say yes...

Although i am not hideously disfigured or anything
I am not as good looking as i was when i was 17, when i was 17 it was before i had my nose broken several times doing martial arts,
before I put on some weight (and muscle), and before i went a little grey and slowly receeding

But alas time stands still for no man, and i guess i am lucky that at least i was ok looking for some part of my life.
And i am not a monster, just not a male model.

Does being less than beautiful depress me, well sure, as it must be nice to be one of the beautiful people.
Who must have a lot more fun, relationships, people who love them, than people who are less beautiful.

But in life, I guess we all have our lot in life and its for us to make it what we can.
No point pointing our fingers or getting angry 'cause others are naturally (or even artificially) more beautiful than us,
just how it is.

Also, as it happens, I have never been one for having my photo taken.
Just not very comfortable with it. Ironically, when i was younger, i never really thought much about looks.
And just kind of plodded along with my life.

Now that i am older, and looking back, i realise that when i was younger I wasn't as ugly as I thought i was (but got the perception that i was ugly due to bullying). Ironically, now, i think i am better looking that i really am... lol.
Due to thinking i look the same as i did when i was a kid.

But like i say
alas, time wait for no man.

I guess, instead of getting lost in my own vanity, i should forget about my looks and spend more of my time on making music. As that is what I love and fills me with love, instead of looking in the mirror or pine'ing for praise from others.