Getting less and less nice the older I get

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I used to be so innocent and so sweet when I was a lot younger. I think it was because I was very naïve then so I assumed everyone was like me, tolerant and open minded and once you correct them, "they become more understanding and change their mind going, "Oh, I never realized that and never thought of it that way" but boy should I have learned from my ex Jerry that is not how many people are. I just assumed it was only him who was like that.

But the older I had gotten, I notice I am more short tempered, not as patient and I am more snarky towards anyone who I think isn't a nice person or if I think they're stupid or intolerant or stupid or an as*hole. They just simply lost my respect and had proven to me they don't deserve it. I am also an as*hole to other as*holes and have lost faith in humans. I've gotten intolerant of the intolerance.


Is it normal to get less nicer as we get older because we run out of patience and we realize how f****d up humans are in general so there is no point?

I can understand why anyone would say being naïve is a good thing or that ignorant is a bliss. But once you see reality, you are no longer this sweet and innocent person people make you out to be. I can thank the internet for it for making me see it simply because that is where lot of my social interaction is.

That's normal. Some people stop being nice to everyone after realizing that some won't be nice back no matter what they do. Some become bitter from bad treatment and start acting less nicely because of it. Some have been nice to everyone in order to fill a certain role, but with more age, they no longer care as much and hold their ground and step up for themselves, making them seem less nice. And some people have been nice before but don't stay that way, so others stop being nice to them, too. And of course, the more jerks come to your life, the more people there are that make you feel like it's okay to not be nice to them.

I can identify, League Girl.
What I see in my ‘not nice’ behavior is a response to years of seeing the same old games and manipulation, just different people.
I’m referring specifically to the workplace.
I am at the point where I do not chat at all, just focus on my work and take pride in my productivity.

I happen to believe that many people are decent-natured, and that the minority who are jerks (or worse) create in us a defensiveness which ascribes “jerkiness or worse” as a default quality in people. As a result, one could become a jerk or worse as a manifestation of this defensiveness.