I'M ALMOST READY TO GIVE UP! HELP! NOW!

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Weve all been thru a lot in 2020! H
HAPPY NEW YEAR TO EVERYBODY, by the way! I have a neighbbor that is threatening me to get me evicted from my place! He come up stairs every time i make any noise AT ALL! And when he does, he is always so infuriated that I feel physically unsafe. This has been going on for a long time, and its effect is always the same! I've actually received a warning letter from the land lord and my supports person and i and the managers have had a threee-way phone conversation and we resolved it that sometimes hes not on his meds and is becoming more and more volatile each time i drop a plastic bottle of ketchup or something - GUYS I FEEL LIKE IM IN PRISON OR SOMETHING! He was just up here today AGAIN and threw me into one of the worst panic attacks ive had in years - i still cant calm down - i wish somebody would give me a temporary place to live or im worried he will hurt me. Hhe hasnt even threatedened me physically, but his volatility and evil eyes and pounding and kicking my door other neibors hear it its LOUD! I feel unsafe!
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Are there any support services in your area
do you have a diagnosis for ASD?

If so, perhaps you can get someone to mediate for you

Otherwise, not sure what to advise.

I have a Supports Coordinater, but he's not reachable at the moment! And YES I have an ASD diagnosis - that's how I can live in assisted housing HUD. But the problem is they can't segregate the aggressive mentally ill people like him - from the defenseless weaklings like me.
THANKS FOR YOUR CONCERN, My friend! Feel free to respond with anything else you might think of as a quick fix

I hear that you are extremely upset and frightened by someone living in the same apartment complex as you, perhaps just below you. I hope you left a message for your Support Coordinator so that she can get back to you asap.

Meanwhile, I would ignore your neighbor and pay no attention when he pounds on your door. Is the door sturdy enough that he cannot break in?

If you are really threatened, can you call 911 for help?

Sorry that you are being frightened by your neighbor. I agree with the advice given to leave a message for your support person and if you feel urgently threatened to call 911.

Perhaps if you are able to place a heavy piece of furniture in front of your door it may give you some peace of mind.

As others have said:
Probably best to not open the door. (unless a mediator is present)
If he attempts to break the door down call 911.
If he damages the door make sure the landlord knows who caused the damage.

Well first of all do not open your door for him ever, like someone else said if you feel it would help you can put something in front of your door to make it harder for him to get through if you are worried about it. Also you should inform the apartment management that he's continuing to harass you and banging on your door.

As a last resort you could try calling 9-11 if he's attacking your door, but that's best as a last resort and probably best you're not near the door when police show up just in case they get err reckless.

But, before that I would certainly try to report his behavior to the management and see if it can be resolved that way first. Though with them giving you a warning for his aggression, not sure how helpful they will be.

Also might be a good idea to start looking into options to move out when ever your lease is up. Especially if the management takes his side and/or won't help....not worth staying in a place with management like that, it'll drive you crazy.

So sorry to hear what’s going on there. I’d be putting headphones on & listening to music, if he bangs on your door again ... just shut him out until this can be properly taken care of. You certainly don’t deserve or need to be in an environment that’s threatening. That’s completely unreasonable and needs to be remedied. X

Hello!
I’m sorry this is happening. Your frustration is valid for sure.

But I will also state, please do not open your door or communicate with this man at all. He is not well and cannot be trusted.

They need to move him to a top floor!! ! Even if you move out he will have this reaction to whoever moves in after you.

I wish I was local to you. I need a roommate I can trust who is also on the spectrum.

I do hope you find peace in this situation.

Thank You so much for your concern! It happened again at about 12:30am. This guy is psycho - I've never seen him like this! I ignored him, and he just kept banging and kicking, and yelling things that didn't make any sense! I could hear my other neighbors' doors open, and I heard them chatter, but apparently none of them wanted to get involved! And then I heard nothing but HIS continued banging and yelling! I was terrified, and still am! I've had 4 panic attacks today! Knowing myself, I won't sleep tonight. I'll probably stay only on the mattress in my living room until Monday. As it is, in fear of this guy, I haven't eaten in days, and I haven't cleaned my apartment in months - for fear of igniting him. No amount of effort to kiss his ass appears to be good enough! I'M SCARED!

I’m so sorry!

Tomorrow is Monday, please call and try and get ahold of your case coordinator. And if you have to leave a message or something tell her the situation has escalated and you physically feel unsafe and you are not eating. Use big trigger words she will not be able to ignore. Or if you can’t get ahold of her is there a main number you can call and use those big trigger words with and they can either get her on the phone or maybe another coordinator could temporarily help you?

Are you able to talk to the neighbors and see if they will side with you if you go talk to the apartment management?

So if he keeps coming up there and banging like that and you do not open the door or communicate with him, the neighbors will just see HIM acting crazy instead of an altercation between the two of you. That will serve you better.

Please eat! Even if it’s just a sandwich or something simple and quiet to eat-please eat!!

One other comment:

There is strength in numbers.

He is probably not only terrifying you but also probably some of your neighbors. You are not the only one.

If you join forces with your neighbors, it is more likely that the managers of the apartment will take notice and work to resolve the issue.

I wish I had better advice to give, but this is a sticky situation that you are in. Do you have a voice recorder? If so, I would record his behavior and take that to the apartment manager. It helps your side if you have evidence of how he is acting out towards you. That might give you a bit of leverage in the discussion.

If you feel like he is breaking in to harm you, by all means call 911 and let the police deal with him. I have had to do that to a neighbor before when I was in grad school. He had not been taking his meds and was physically violent without them. He got removed by the police and never came back.

I hope you were able to get ahold of someone today!

I just had therapy, and I told her everything that's been going on. She gave good some ideas - including interim shelters because waiting lists are six months to two years in most places. Also my Supports Coordinator is working with the landlord today. I can't get a Personal Protection Order until he actually does something first. But I feel a little better right now (keyword "Right Now"). I'm tiptoe-ing around and I've made a comfortable spot in my apartment and I'm using my Wi-Fi to immerse myself in ASMR videos on YouTube! So at least I'll sleep better! Thank You so much!

Good, I’m so glad they seem to be taking the situation seriously.

I hope you sleep well!