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At least, that I can recall in this moment.

7 friends and family died last year, up to 5 already this year. None of them this year were super close to me so far, but still.

2 of my mom’s older cousins, husband and wife in their 80’s, died a week or two apart from covid.

Another of her cousins that I knew from family events fell and broke her leg pretty bad. She had ALS and would have taken forever to heal her leg and then died a slow agonizing painful death so opted for euthanasia a couple weeks ago.

My dad’s uncle passed - in his 80’s, just old age afaik. His wife passed years ago. They were pleasant happy upbeat people - always youthful for their ages, as my parents are compared to their friends. Like the passing of his wife, my dad found out reading the obituaries section of the paper - I think that’s a part of why he still subscribes to it tbh, to keep up to date on friends/family/colleagues who pass.. but in a respectful vs morbid way.

And that same day we heard that my brothers fiancées sister died of an accidental drug overdose - likely fentanyl. My brother has had 2 of her (I think) 4 kids for the last 4 years as part of his big blended family - way better for those two boys for sure. The boys took it fairly well seeing as they no longer had anything to do with her and no major emotional attachment. In a way they’re better off; free from wondering when they’ll get that phone call. The one I feel worst for is the developmentally delayed 4yo that was with his mother’s body until someone found her - I don’t know how many hours/days that might have been. Rough. IF I ever met her for a brief moment in my lifetime it would have been approx 30 years ago. Still, the kids’ bio mom died and it’s sad.

Would be fine by me if people stopped dying all the time annnnyytime. None of these ppl were close to me, so I’m fine, but still.. wtf? Enough already. But, there are a lot of older folks in the family now as I’m 38.. so, it’s inevitable that ever more people are going to kick it. Ever easier for those not so close to me, but it’s when the ones that are close go.. that’s the hardest no matter how old you are.

Would be nice to make it through the rest of this pandemic without any more friends or relatives biting it due to covid, though. Especially not close ones. Hell, I’ve cried every single day since ~September recalling moments from my friend’s funeral in March - but it’s emotional, not exactly sadness. Don’t particularly wanna add to that. Not all that interested in 2021 breaking last year’s death toll record.. but whatever, if it happens it happens and we’ll all just deal with it. IF it has to happen I’m gonna be greedy and say I hope they’re all distant relatives I’m not super close with.

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No for supporting trump. Because doing so is deplorable.

One day you'll wake up and realize that you ARE the "older generation," as all your parents, grandparents, aunts and uncles have gone. (Except I have one uncle, age 97, still kicking.)

My grandmother used to say wistfully that when you're old, all your friends and most of your relatives have died. It's especially unfair when an elderly parent has lost children - it's not supposed to go that way.

hug...

It hurts when we suddenly realize they are not there... It is like an aspect of our life has changed and we can't get it back. Sorry to hear.