Marknis wrote:
I really don’t enjoy it when people tell me they dislike me or say things that make me feel like they dislike me. It hurts my already low self-esteem and makes me wonder if anyone truly likes me or why do some say they like me but others don’t? Are the ones who like me wrong to do so and the ones who don’t are correct?
There's a lot of black-and-white (a/k/a all-or-nothing) thinking in this paragraph. What's more probable than all-liking or all-disliking you, is that most people could assign you a score on a continuum, from -100 (totally dislike) to +100 (totally like). Further than that, you want to know which camp is right or wrong.
These cognitive distortions only torture and hurt you. Try to think of your interactions as "won a point!" (when you tell a joke or story that goes over well) or "lost a point/can't win 'em all!" (when an interaction isn't what you hoped).
I don't totally like you or totally dislike you. Would it hurt your feelings if mostly, I'm neutral?
Or does my opinion simply not matter?
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