Growing up with aspergers

Post Reply New Topic

Doctors, people, therapists always talk about autistic kids, having a child with autism,etc... But what happens when people with aspergers grow up? They dont disappear of course, but nobody talks about autism in adults. I got diagnosed 10 years ago with "aspergers" and things dont seem to be get better. Now im 23 years old and living with parents, no job and no friends. I have also other mental disorders like anxiety and depression.

I mean, am i supposed to live like this forever? What do people with aspergers do when they grow up ? (How) did you start living independantly and gain confidence ?

No matter what the problem is, society seems to expect the individual to deal with it on their own, starting on their 18th birthday (21st for women).  Anxiety?  Autism?  Depression?  Foster care?  Poverty?  Sexual abuse?  Once you become a legal adult, it becomes YOUR responsibility, and the System cannot wait to get rid of you.

Depending on your location, there are "meetup groups" for adults with Aspergers and with autism.

Then, of course, you could meet people right here on WP. Talk about your hobbies, in addition to your struggles with Asperger's.

I used to have support when I was aged between 18 and 23, but it didn't really help much.
I got my first job at 22, with the help from a family friend who got me the job because she worked there.
I met my boyfriend when I was 24 and being in a relationship seemed to have helped me mature and gain more confidence. I met him on the bus I used to get regularly to a volunteer job.
So basically I accomplished these things myself, with a little help from family and friends, rather than counseling and CBT and support groups.

These things take time to happen, but if you do some volunteering somewhere or something like that you may meet people and it may open new doors for you. You just have to be patient. You're still fairly young so there's still plenty of time to achieve these goals.

When I was aged between 18 and 24 I went through a stage where I was mentally ill; I hated myself, I was depressed more times than I was happy, I frequently had emotional outbursts, and I thought my life would never go anywhere, I thought I'd never meet a boyfriend, and before I got a job I thought I would never find a job. Now I've come a long way, and although I still have my moments with depression and anxiety, it's still not as bad as it was before and I still seem to cope better.
But I am high-functioning, and I'm actually capable of more than I think if I put my mind to it. I know some Aspies don't like people using functioning labels but...I am high-functioning, even a blind person could see that.

I'd file for disability if you have have no job or any form of income and live in the US. Expect to be denied a bunch and expect to go to court, also document everything related to any and all medical conditions. Hire an attorney either now or after your first denial letter. I think its a good idea to be able to live as independently as possible. Your parents may not be around forever.

So to answer your question, adults with autism either live with family, are on disability or they work the best they can.

He is in a country that is not far from Greece.

I am more autistic savannt...basically a child with an iq


recently I've developed schizophrenia at 45 years old

its trying to make me nt

prefer the autistic child...shes funny

people used to just see me as quirky

nt is strange

I don't like feeling nt

too boring and serious

they have stickks up their bums

plus their emotions work differently to mine

yack

Remember the fact that being on the spectrum is part of your essence.