Everyone's into fitness except me

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Both my closest female cousins are into going to the gym, and here's me about 2-3 stone overweight with no motivation for exercise like that. It does make me feel like a loser, because they both work full-time yet still manage to go to the gym too, while I only work part-time but have not got the interest.

If this does start to make me depressed then I'm going to have to diet, which I don't really want to do because I keep getting physically hungry really quickly to the point where I feel sick and weak. I eat a healthy, substantial meal, then about 20 minutes later my stomach feels like I haven't eaten and my mouth goes dry.
No, don't say diabetes. I've recently been tested for that and I do not have it.

Exercise is just so repetitive, I don't know how people do it. Also it makes you sweat. I'd walk to work (not walk home though because it's dark by then and I live in an area with a high crime rate where people are advised not to walk alone late at night), but walking the 2 miles to work makes my armpits stink of onions and I get self-conscious. I've tried different antiperspirants but I seem to be allergic to it, but using deodorant doesn't always mask the smell, only for about 10 minutes after rolling/spraying it on.
Maybe if I had the money I'll go to the gym, but I don't. Nor do I have the stamina.

I suppose I'll just be fat and unattractive while my cousins will be slim and toned and looking nice in their summer clothes.

Have you tried salt crystal deodorant? If you couldn’t do that could you wash your pits somehow when you get to work? That would bug me too if I had to walk to work but couldn’t use deodorant. I find most kinds of deodorants don’t work great except for salt deodorants and gels. When you don’t have to work, maybe you could try going for a walk during the day, and take a quick shower when you get home or simply wash the pits. And if you just don’t think you can lose weight, some decent clothes can still look flattering on a plus size girl, if you even are plus size. I’m terrible at finding flattering clothes but noticed when my aunt donated me some clothes, the stuff she bought was meant for a plus size lady, so it was a lot more flattering than the clothes I buy for myself. I don’t know how she does that.

If you want to get into shape then you have to know what you're doing. Here is a good YouTube channel I can vouch for to help you:

https://www.youtube.com/user/GravityTrainingSol/videos

Also eating and dieting doesn't have to be boring, as these 2 fitness gurus show:



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Thanks for your advice.

I don't think I would feel so down about myself if others around me weren't all happy-go-lucky. I enjoy food and I enjoy soda drinks. The weight I should be for my height is around 9-10 stone, but I'm hovering around 12 stone. I do comfort eat. *sigh*

Look up Jeff Cavaliere on Youtube. He is the master of getting people in shape who love to enjoy their food and enjoy what they eat. Right now on Youtube subscribe to Jeff Cavaliere Athlean X and have your life transformed.

There's a reason that this guy is the most subscribed to YouTube fitness channel of all time

I’m not really into “fitness,” either.

I exercise because I don’t want to weigh 18 stone.....I’m about 11 1/2 stone at present. I get fat easily.

Exercise is good for mental health, but it's pretty much useless for excessive fat loss. Religiously working out for one hour every day will contribute max 20% of progress.


Lack of physical activity inevitably will make you depressed. But not due to appearance, but due to accumulation of neurotoxic compounds in your body, poor tryptophan metabolism and elevated stress levels.

If your diet makes you feel hungry, sick and weak, it means it triggers metabolic adaptation, it means this diet is not healthy. Good diet means eating food that doesn't make you even hungrier and allows your body to normalize weight while you eat sufficient amounts to not feel really hungry, you don't really need to restrict your food. Did you try ketogenic diet?


It doesn't need to be long and repetitive unless you are training for marathon or something. Short HIIT workout, like "7-minute workout" is enough to trigger all the important processes in your body. Another good way to boost your basal metabolism is lifting weights for like 10 minutes 2 times a week. Lifting weights regularly will also protect you from osteoporosis, osteoarthritis, injuries and ton of other nasty things.


Appearance should be at the bottom of the list. Reason number one to exercise is mental health.

Often we struggle so much with something because we put all the effort into doing wrong thing. It doesn't work and you can't help but feel demoralized.

So, 80% of weight loss is diet, not exercise.

Exercise doesn't need to be long and boring.

Diet should not make you hungry and weak.

Your goals are easily achievable if you do it right.

There is no reason to feel the way you feel.

Last edited by badRobot on 26 May 2021, 3:18 am, edited 1 time in total.

Since you complain that you lack exercise equipment and dont go to a gym I will post several videos that you can do everyday that will help you get in shape and they dont take long to do. If you have only 10 minutes a day this should be doable:

I think what sparked off my depression about this is the way my cousins posted on Facebook about their fitness. One of them posted a video her husband filmed of her working out on a running machine at the gym, and I just felt guilty being me. And my other cousin posted some results on a screen thing that said about a workout she had done. It just made me feel bad about myself, because they have the money and motivation, while I'm permanently exhausted from stress and I have little to no money (I have valid things to be stressed about like my mum being ill and my partner being unemployed).

I used to get like this with people posting about going out drinking with friends at weekends, but I guess most of my peers have outgrown that and it seems to be all about going to the gym now. I suppose I'll have to start dieting again and watching the videos Salad has very helpfully posted.

You will not believe it, but I'm like 99.9% sure it didn't spark off your depression. Depression is the reason we feel bad seeing such things instead of feeling happy for others and motivated to change for the better.

So do a variety of exercises instead of one repetitive one. Don't spend money you don't have going to a gym, spend time exercising outside.

As for body odour - eat a cleaner diet. I've found that if I eat junk food, my sweat smells. If I eat SUPER clean and healthy, my sweat is almost just straight odourless water. I've only used a natural salt deodorant for several years now - no terrible sweating, no terrible smells.

If your shifts don't allow for walking/exercise afterwards because they start late, get up earlier and get 20-30mins of exercise in before you shower up and head out for your work day.

Exercise is something I look forward to there are thousands of different exercise variations to try with some experimentation I'm sure you could find something you enjoy I run marathons and haven't spent a penny on the gym so cost is not something I see as an issue.

A word of caution about weight loss normal exercise won't help much for losing fat unless you do a lot of cardio running biking etc, so if you dislike repetitive exercise you may have to focus on caloric intake. Since you say you're feeling hungry while dieting I would suggest eating foods you enjoy that have a lot of volume but are low in calories (for example if you wanted to eat chips as a snack eating the same volume of popcorn instead has a lot less calories)

If there are any flavored zero calorie drinks you enjoy to replace or reduce soda intake that could also help (when losing weight i enjoy lemon water or seltzer), but your diet should never feel like a diet, and I'm sure you could find an exercise you enjoy doing so that it can be something you look forward to.

Another really good video to look into Joe90 that will help you as far as eating sustainably and healthily:

Since you're a woman this may also be helpful: