My girlfriend's ex has been stalking her and will not leave her alone. A few months ago he kept wanting his things back but she kept insisting that he has it all and she cannot find anything as to what he described.
He broke into her apartment and threatened her. She ended up calling the police and the police paid him a visit and talked to him about it. She said they couldn't arrest him though since it was just her word against his at this point. But they talked to him. A few hours later, he breaks into her apartment again and threatens her about calling the police. He still couldn't find his things.
A few months later now, she gets a subpoena saying she has to appear in court because she owes him money since when they were dating, he was paying her rent. But he was abusive and very controlling of her, so she felt she couldn't say no to him paying the rent because he insisted in an abusive way. At least this is what she told me. But now she has been subpoenaed saying she is being taken to court over paying him back the money. Money she didn't want him to lend her in the first place but I think he abused and manipulated her into taking it from what she told me.
So it's not that she necessarily has a problem paying the money back now. It's just that she is terrified of him and this is all very hard on her. She just really doesn't want to see him anymore or have any contact with him anymore, and if she has to see him in court now, she says it will be a psychological nightmare for her. She says she just wants to not go to court so she doesn't have to see him and just pay him off to get him to leave her alone.
But I told her if she did this, he is probably not going to leave her alone, as this seems like a game to him and paying him off will not do anything I told her. I hope he is telling her that was the right move. I told her to get an attorney and talk this over. But she is going through a really bad psychological time because of this and because of him and I am really worried not only about that, but of her safety from him as well.
21 Dec 2021, 1:05 am
