The old problem with NT's! The are so social as well as busy. No time to ask honestly:
"How are you? Why you behave like this? How can I help you to feel better?"
It's not so complicated to say this, or?
But it's easier for them, just to think the own stuff about you and your behavior - and then talk about it with other NT's.
I find this kind of communication more difficult and there are more misunderstandings than to say honestly and directly, what's up!
These people will never really find out who you are. They just mean, that they know it.