Feeling like everyone is moving ahead except me

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I know I'm not but I still can't help myself from thinking that I'm the only one feeling like everyone else is moving on ahead in life than me with things such as having their first child, getting married, etc and here I am feeling as though I haven't changed at all. I don't know if I'm just finding hard to come to terms with the fact I'm an adult just like those other people are adults and have their own independent lives to live and that I can't dictate to them whether or not to have kids and get married as it is their choice.

I find it hard to be happy for someone I recognise from school days now having his/her first child and bought their first home. I seem to think I must have something wrong with me if I am struggling to feel happiness and empathy for them. It's left thinking I must have some narcissistic personality disorder that someone thought I had which really upset me and made me feel like I'm some psychopath who cares only about themselves and not others.

I get feared about being a psychopath too.
But you're not a psychopath. You're just feeling insecure about yourself because everyone else around you seem to be achieving their goals while you feel left behind. That's quite normal to feel like that in your situation. Depression can make you feel that way too, and judging by your threads I believe you are depressed. I get jealous of others a lot, who have what I don't/can't have.
If I can remember rightly, you drive and you do have a job. I know you sometimes feel insecure about what job you do, but it's a job and that's all that matters. Lots of NTs are in menial jobs too. It doesn't mean you're stupid. It means you may just lack confidence or you may not know the right people. Sometimes it depends on who you know when it comes to what job you have. For example, if your mum's best friend runs a factory, chances are she'd give you a job there then promote you, simply because she knows you. That's how a lot of people succeed, it's not always what you know, it's who you know.
I've always been in cleaning jobs. I can't imagine myself doing anything else. Sometimes I feel embarrassed at work because the guys are all well-experienced engineers on a good wage, while I'm just a cleaner on minimum wage. But I suppose it's a job, it pays my bills, and it's not too stressful either.

But no, I don't believe for a second that you're a psychopath.