I do not fit in and I will never fit in and that is okay.

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I don't fit in with the normies.

I don't fit in with the autistic folks.

I don't fit in except in my own little bubble where I have my own problems and dilemmas. And that's fine!

Mind if I join your little club, Miss Honeytoast? :p

Well, I don't really think I fit in well with pretty much almost anyone, either. Go figure.

Really?

I've also needed to absorb this realization.

Really, really.

So, mind if I join you?

If you stop being passive aggressive, yeah.

Okay, if I can help it.

I never realised you thought that.

I'm OK with it, but then I've managed to fulfil basic human needs. "Been there, done that" so I was able to go back to being how I was as a child, content to be at home in the holidays not seeing anybody other than immediate family, winding down from the madness of school. People did used to ask me "How come you never come out?" and I used to say "Aren't you sick of this lot after seeing them all day?".

I like my own company, I went through a long period of hating myself, but that was just the inevitable flip side of hating everybody else for a period. It was a huge revelation for me to realise in my mid-20s that everybody else was struggling and not happy all of the time.

I get it when people are craving a relationship and cannot cope with life, I think that is the biggest obstacle to coming to terms with yourself and everything around you.

I guess I’ve come to the same realization too about not fitting in ever, but it does hurt. I think I’m still coming to terms with that. I haven’t had any real friends in years and that’s fine…I guess it all lies with accepting yourself as stated above.

I grew up 22 years believing I was just a shy NT. I mask (or I think I do) fairly well as a quiet introvert when I just push things down inside and let it all out when I’m alone. I don’t think I let my symptoms show unless I get emotional. You do not want to see me frustrated.

I See people here struggle with things I don’t, and it makes me feel as if I should too, or my diagnosis was faked, if I was pretending to be or something. I get it, it’s a spectrum.

You do not want to see me on caffeine. Ask Rexi.
Yep, frustration is a big problem for many on the spectrum, including me.



Yep, it is a spectrum.
I have NO problems looking into ppl's eyes, and I have no serious sensitivity issues that I can think of.

i say this to myself a lot, but deep down i wonder if i can ever really be content with it.

I have to consciously remind myself to look others in the eye, it is not something that I do naturally. I don't do well with frustration either.

A few years ago I had an argument with someone here on WP who kept trying to convince me I was an NT and couldn't possibly be an Aspie because I like physical affection and care what people think about me. If you could see my social skills (especially when younger, I have improved in that area) and see what goes on in my head, there would be no doubt!

We have the ability to improve our "Cognitive Empathy" through what I call "Intellectual Bridges".