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Just wanna know what people's opinions are on this. Just say what you feel. No judgement.

If you was a parent of a 2 or 3 year old child would you let them go somewhere with a complete stranger? I'm talking about a trip on a bus and to that person's house but neither you or your child know the person.

I'm struggling with this because I just can't see how it would be acceptable but I know that it has happened.

I just can't believe my life sometimes.

I feel like this is a trick question, as the answer appears blatantly obvious - f**k no!

If this is something that happened decades ago then parents attitudes & life was different then.

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I wouldn't let my 9 year old go on a bus or to the house of a complete stranger, let alone a two or three year old.

Its never a trick question with me. It happened to me years ago. I can only just remember it and it's always been a mystery to me because I didn't know the woman involved, I never saw her again and I was never allowed to ever mention the incident ever again. I just find it really weird. I don't think anything bad happened to me and as far as I remember it wasn't even an unpleasant experience.

Yeah same here. Thank you.

If you were 2 or 3 at the time then there is no way you have the full story of what exactly happened and if the person involved was indeed a stranger. e.g. My grandmother used to offer respite care for pregnant woman, young mothers and their children etc . She was a complete stranger to these women at first.

Having said that, it's f*****g weird that the incident is taboo.

Yeah exactly. I feel as though it was kind of like a try before you buy situation. I mean that might sound far fetched but I don't think I could be blamed for my imagination running wild.

I can't have been any older than 3 because I wasn't at school and I was still in a buggy.

You have/had a great imagination, Do you feel like you might have been rejected by this stranger in the totally normal situation of 'try before you buy' - not.

No I think I was just over thinking that then.

I just can't fathom the whole situation.

I used to think that she was my biological mother who somehow found me and my adoptive mother let her take me for the day but I just don't know.

I can't see how under any circumstances a parent would let this happen.

There are a few circumstances that are perfectly normal that I could name.

Maybe your caregiver needed respite, had an emergency etc it's taboo because the reason for respite/emergency is triggering.

Are you adopted? Don't have to answer that.

I feel like I'm derailing your thread, I'll wait till a few more posters have commented before I continue the interrogation

OK so there's more. My caregiver was in charge of a unit run by the social services for women who had been referred there for various reasons. This woman (as far as I am aware) had been referred there. I can't ever remember seeing her again though. Or before for that matter but maybe she had been there before.

I wouldn't have done that. Not a chance.

My mother is a different story though. She had issues.

Yeah my mother isn't without issues either. I'm gonna chew over it with my T next week and see what he says. Maybe he's come across something like this before.

My mother was an extreme attention seeker and I'm thinking all kinds of weird thoughts atm.

Thanks for your help everyone.

Uhhhh hell no.
I wouldn't even want my sons or daughter in their 20s do that lol - if they didn't know the person at all?

A two or three year old? Not on your life. I didn't even hire babysitters apart from our nanny.

I didn't even let my daughter walk home from school when she was 11, and the school was about one block from where we lived.

Do you know if the adults knew her?
Surely they must have?
She was only a stranger to you then, or you don't know?

I know this was many years ago but still no.

The only similar experience I had was around the age of 10, I went in a car with my grandmother's hospice nurse. I have no idea why but I was alone with her and I still remember her full name.

I think my mother may have only met her through being in charge of a centre for vulnerable women. The Stranger being the vulnerable woman. The vulnerability could have been anything from domestic abuse to drugs and alcohol abuse.

It's a mixed up situation.

I went so far as to see a hypnotist to try and remember ... problematic stuff from that age in my life.

There's a very questionable story about something that happened to me in my grandfather's care.