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Aspiegaming
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07 May 2023, 12:12 pm

It always happens one way or another. I'm doing work. Things go well at first then somewhere down the line, I screw something up. People get angry at me, they hate me for the rest of the day, I feel bad, then I feel like s**t, and want to be left alone.

Do not expect greatness from me. Do not expect anything good from me. If there is something you want me to do and there is the smallest chance that I'll screw something up, then you can do that work yourself. Play it safe and avoid using me for anything.


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07 May 2023, 12:23 pm

Honestly i feel the same. (I am assuming work means related to your job?) ı am not good at anything, i am average. But i am always working hard and this is the best i can do.



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07 May 2023, 12:34 pm

AprilR wrote:
Honestly i feel the same. (I am assuming work means related to your job?) ı am not good at anything, i am average. But i am always working hard and this is the best i can do.


Chores really. I mowed the lawn and ran the blades over a vertical pipe entrance to the sewer and took the cap off of it permanently. Now my dad hates me. This happens every time he wants me to do work for him.


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07 May 2023, 12:41 pm

Aspiegaming wrote:
AprilR wrote:
Honestly i feel the same. (I am assuming work means related to your job?) ı am not good at anything, i am average. But i am always working hard and this is the best i can do.


Chores really. I mowed the lawn and ran the blades over a vertical pipe entrance to the sewer and took the cap off of it permanently. Now my dad hates me. This happens every time he wants me to do work for him.


Ah i see. I am not great at chores either, even cooking. I think this is a forgivable mistake.



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07 May 2023, 12:44 pm

AprilR wrote:
Aspiegaming wrote:
AprilR wrote:
Honestly i feel the same. (I am assuming work means related to your job?) ı am not good at anything, i am average. But i am always working hard and this is the best i can do.


Chores really. I mowed the lawn and ran the blades over a vertical pipe entrance to the sewer and took the cap off of it permanently. Now my dad hates me. This happens every time he wants me to do work for him.


Ah i see. I am not great at chores either, even cooking. I think this is a forgivable mistake.


My dad is a hotheaded alcoholic. He's only forgiving as long as I act like I don't exist.


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07 May 2023, 12:46 pm

Electronics jobs: got complained about by work colleges and bosses. Eventually gave up as I had a nervous breakdown.

Weed spraying: 3 road accidents, screwed up the quad bike as didn't put oil in it.

Kitchen porter: one of the chefs said when I left I'd nearly given him a heart attack through being uncommunicative.

Warehouse: got sacked for poor work performance

Etc etc...

So I end up on state benefits. I'm just generally a crap human being.


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07 May 2023, 2:09 pm

Work = Force (N) x distance (m) measured in Joules.

To earn a living, choose an occupation based on Work, not socializing. Get a job lifting and moving things all day, or using tools and materials to build or manufacture something. Or to destruct or demolish something if you’re a more physically aggressive non detail oriented type.

Or picking orders, stocking shelves, cleaning floors, painting, driving & delivering etc etc etc there are many jobs ppl do very solo while hardly ever being obligated to interact with other people.

Pick one of those jobs and try it out. If it doesn’t work out, try a different one. If it’s something skilled vs unskilled in time as your skills increase you’ll get paid more money. But sometimes just plodding along in an unskilled routine is best for some people - especially if they’re happy with their work and earn enough money to sustain an acceptable lifestyle.


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07 May 2023, 2:17 pm

I was always told that I might not do well in employment because of needing everything spelled out for me. I actually do a decent job at work, but there are times I apparently "don't take enough initiative".
It's hard to tell when it's ok to "take initiative" and when you're going to get in trouble for doing it, so I don't generally do stuff I wasn't trained or taught to do.

I hear ya, though. I've done work for fussy people and it doesn't help the RSD any. Any time I'd make a mistake or do something that just plain annoyed them, I'd get yelled at. And then I'd get yelled at for "acting timid". Other people told me not to take that person too personally, that they were just "like that".


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RAADs: 104 | ASQ: 30 | CAT-Q: 139 | Aspie Quiz: 116/200 (84% probability of being atypical)